The Power of Meaningful Ceremony: Reflecting on George H.W. Bush’s Funeral

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“People who take the time and make the effort to create meaningful funeral arrangements when someone loved dies often end up making new arrangements in their own lives. They remember…

7 Tips for Coping with Traumatic Grief

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Grief, in its normal context, is already difficult to bear and elicits a variety of emotions. When you add in the element of trauma, everything becomes more complicated. When a…

The Value of Vigils

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Things happen in this world that break our hearts. In many cases, there’s nothing we personally could have done to prevent the events from occurring. Twenty people died in a…

10 Remembrance Activities for Your Holiday Season

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The holiday season is often particularly difficult for those who have recently lost someone or for those whose loss may not be recent but is still fresh and closely felt….

Gratitude & Your Grief Journey

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During times of grief, we often turn our focus inward. While this tendency is natural, it may also lead to feelings of isolation and intense, singular focus on the loss…

9 Preplanning Mistakes to Avoid

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According to the National Funeral Directors Association, 62.5% of consumers feel that it is important to share funeral wishes with family members, but only 21.4% did so in 2017. That…

The Benefits of a Grief Journal

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Grief is an inescapable part of life. For many, grief is associated with losing someone dearly loved. However, it is important to note that grief is not always associated with…

Grave Liners & Burial Vaults: What’s the Difference?

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For many of us, the ins and outs of funeral planning are unfamiliar and confusing. We don’t know where to start or even what all of our options are. Should…

The Unspoken Grief of Pregnancy and Infant Loss

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Pregnancy and infant loss is all around us. Mothers, fathers, and families the world over have felt the pain of losing a lovingly anticipated child. No matter how the child…

Writing a Letter to Say All the Things Left Unsaid

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When we lose someone we love – whether to an unexpected event or a prolonged illness – we don’t always get the chance to say the words we wish we…

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Suicide Prevention and Mental Health: What Can We Do to Help Our Nation’s Veterans?

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September is suicide prevention month, and one of our nation’s most vulnerable populations are our own veterans and military personnel. Veterans embody qualities such as bravery, sacrifice, and dedication to…

Myth vs. Fact: The Truth About Final Expense Plans

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Paying for a funeral in advance doesn’t have to be a difficult task. All you really need is a knowledgeable funeral professional who thoughtfully educates you on all the options…

5 Ways to Pay for a Funeral

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Many people do not realize that payment for a funeral is due prior to services being rendered. So, having a financial plan in place to pay for a funeral is…

7 Ways to Keep Your Loved One’s Memory Alive

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Grief is not…a “two steps forward, one step backward” kind of journey; it is often one step forward, two steps in a circle, one step backward. It takes time, patience,…

Guilt, Anger, and Other Normal Reactions to Loss

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We experience a wide range of emotions when faced with the death of a loved one. And those emotions aren’t the same for everyone. Perhaps, if everyone grieved in the…

Nature & Your Grief Journey

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Grieving is not easy. In fact, it can be one of the most difficult but potentially strengthening journeys in life. But to become a stronger person on the other side…

Cremation and the Importance of Ceremony

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Cremation is a rapidly growing trend in the United States, with just over 50% of those who died in 2016 selecting cremation for their final disposition. However, many families who…

Grief & Self-Care

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“The word ‘bereaved,’ which to our modern-day ears can sound like an old-fashioned term that only a funeral director might use, means ‘to be torn apart’ and ‘to have special…

Accepting the Caring Help of Others

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“Gracious acceptance is an art – an art which most never bother to cultivate. We think that we have to learn how to give, but we forget about accepting things,…

10 Caring and Creative Sympathy Gifts

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When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures,…

Selecting a Cremation Urn

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According to the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA), cremation has continued to grow as a choice for final disposition. In fact, in the 2017 Cremation and Burial Report, the NFDA…

Give Yourself Permission to Grieve

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You give yourself permission to grieve by recognizing the need for grieving. Grieving is the natural way of working through the loss of a love. [It] is not weakness nor…

6 Ways to Personalize a Funeral

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A funeral, though a time of mourning, can still be filled with celebration and remembrance. It’s a time to honor the one who has died but also an opportunity to…

5 Reasons to Establish a Permanent Memorial

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When we lose someone we love, our feeling of connection to them continues, even though they are no longer with us physically. It is this connection that contributes to our…

What To Do When Dad Dies

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First of all, you have our sincerest sympathies on the loss for your father. Dads are special people – irreplaceable and worth remembering. If your dad completed funeral prearrangement plans,…

What To Do When Mom Dies

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First of all, you have our sincerest sympathies on the loss for your mother. Moms are special people – irreplaceable and worth remembering. If your mom completed funeral prearrangement plans,…

7 Steps to Telling Your Children About Your Funeral Plans

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You’ve made an important decision. By preplanning your funeral, you are giving your family a great gift: an expression of your great love and the gift of a mind at…

6 Things Your Emergency Contacts Need to Know

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Why do we have emergency contacts? Ultimately, it’s because we will all need—at one point or another—a trustworthy person to represent us if we are incapable of doing so ourselves….

8 Simple Tips for Writing a Meaningful Condolence Letter

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Words often fail us. We don’t know what to say, how to say it, or when to say it, but we know something must be said. And so, we try…

The Love Languages of Grief: Identifying and Asking for the Most Effective Grief Support for You

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When it comes to mourning and how others can best help us, there’s no one right way. Every person and every loss is unique. The people we grieve the loss…

9 Funeral Costs That Are Often Overlooked

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Funeral costs can be a tricky thing to pin down if you are trying to plan ahead and protect your family by setting aside funds for a funeral in advance….

11 Meaningful Ways to Honor Your Loved One’s Ashes

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If you are considering cremation, whether for yourself or for a loved one, it’s important to think about all the options available to you. As a term, “final disposition” refers…

The Healing Power of Ritual

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Throughout our lives, we participate in rituals. In some cases, we may not even know that we are taking part in a ritual. At weddings, we toss the bouquet. And…

7 Elements of a Healing and Meaningful Funeral

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The Elements of a Meaningful Funeral Service “People who take the time and make the effort to create meaningful funeral arrangements when someone loved dies often end up making new…

The Capacity to Love: The Reason We Grieve

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“Every time we make the decision to love someone, we open ourselves to great suffering, because those we most love cause us not only great joy, but also great pain….

Love and Grief: Living as You Were Meant to Live

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“We are all mirrors unto one another. Look into me and you will find something or yourself as I will of you.”  – Walter Rinder Love is a sacred partnership…

What to Expect at a Funeral Arrangement Conference

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None of us are ever truly prepared to lose someone we love. Whether the loss comes suddenly or has been long expected, you may experience a wide range of emotions:…

Funerals and Family Discord: What Can You Do?

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Funerals are always difficult. Emotions are closer to the surface. Add to that the struggles and intricacies associated with relationships. Dealing with either family discord or difficult people at an…

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Top 10 Characteristics to Look for in a Funeral Home

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For many of us, the death of a loved one is one of the most difficult life events we face. We don’t want to think about it, but there is…

The Truth About Life Insurance and Funeral Expenses

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It’s not uncommon for families to expect to pay for a funeral with life insurance benefits. Sounds like a simple plan, doesn’t it? The truth is, there can be many…

Top 12 Country Songs for a Celebration of Life Service

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“A good country music song takes a page out of somebody’s life and puts music to it.” – Conway Twitty According to well-known grief expert, counselor, and author Dr. Alan…

Grieving the “Firsts” After a Loss

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The first year without your loved one can be very difficult, especially as milestones approach. First Valentine’s Day. First birthday. Christmas. The anniversary of your loved one’s passing. Each of…

What is the Average Cost of a Funeral?

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Similar to a wedding, a funeral is a very significant event, commemorated by a gathering of family and friends and a ceremony, followed by a reception. The funeral fulfills a…

Quick Start Resource Guide: Planning a Funeral

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First of all, if you have recently lost a loved one, you have our sincerest sympathies. If your loved one completed funeral prearrangement plans, contact the funeral home they partnered…

Getting Your Affairs in Order

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Getting your documents organized can seem like a daunting task. Maybe you’ve considered organizing all the necessary documents and making all the right calls, but you just aren’t quite sure…

12 Tips for Loving the Grieving During the Christmas Season

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It’s Christmas time. Twinkling lights are going up, parties are being planned, and cookies and treats galore are baking in ovens across the nation. But even as happy tidings are…

A Christmas Playlist for the Grieving Heart

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The Christmas season can be especially difficult for those who are grieving. Many Christmas songs are lighthearted, happy, and discuss themes of romantic love, family, or joyfulness. But maybe you…

How Family Interviews Can Make Your Thanksgiving Memorable

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Thanksgiving is about reflection, remembrance, gratitude, and time spent with loved ones. Too often, we take our time on earth for granted, and before we are ready, a loved one…

Does the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) Pay for a Veteran’s Funeral?

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How much do you really know about Veterans’ Burial Benefits? Do you know how much the VA will pay toward a veteran’s funeral? Do you know which benefits you or…

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5 Unique Venues for a Celebration of Life Service

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“People who take the time and make the effort to create meaningful funeral arrangements when someone loved dies…emerge changed, more authentic and purposeful. The best funerals remind us how we…

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Facing Traumatic Events: 5 Keys to Resilience After Loss

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Wildfires ravage forests and towns in California. Floods continue to devastate cities. Hurricanes batter our shores. As traumatic events seem to strike at every turn, people have no choice but…

5 Ways to Spread Awareness and Hope in the Fight Against Breast Cancer

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October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. If you are currently battling breast cancer, if you know someone who is battling breast cancer, if you know and love a breast cancer…

Mourning as a Community in the Face of Tragedy

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Senseless. Horrifying. Heartbreaking. No words can capture the depth of emotion sweeping the nation after November 8th’s shooting in Thousand Oaks, California. This tragedy comes less than two weeks after…

How to Write a Great Epitaph

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An epitaph is an inscription on a tomb, a gravestone, a plaque, or a memorial marker that honors the memory of a deceased person. The use of epitaphs can be traced…

6 Things You Should Never Say to a Grieving Person

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Words are powerful. They have the power to hurt or heal. But sometimes we say things that we think offer comfort, when in reality, they actually hurt the people we…

Natural Disasters and Hurricane Florence: How Grief Can Help Us to Help Others

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What does it mean to grieve during a natural disaster? What opportunities does grief provide for helping others in need? In the wake of recent natural disasters that have caused…

Grief and Loss in the Wake of Hurricane Michael

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Hurricane Michael is lashing against Florida’s shores, sure to cause life-threatening conditions, catastrophic flooding, and property damage. Hurricane Michael comes right on the heels of Hurricane Florence, causing residents of North…

How to Write a Great Obituary

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After the loss of a loved one, family members are often overwhelmed by all of the decisions that have to be made in the midst of their grief. One of…

9/11: Grief and Remembrance

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It’s been 17 years since the devastating terrorist attacks of 9/11. On September 11, 2001, two planes hit the World Trade Center in New York City and one plane crashed…

The Value of Ceremony: Caring for the Living and the Dead

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“Show me the manner in which a nation or a community cares for its dead. I will measure exactly the sympathies of its people, their respect for the laws of…

Grief at Work: Helping an Employee or Coworker After a Loss

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When we think of grief, we often think in terms of how it will affect us, our family members, or our closest friends. But grief hits everyone, and it undoubtedly…

Top 10 Poems for a Funeral Ceremony

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Readings are a great way to enrich a funeral ceremony. As Dr. Wolfelt tells us, readings are an important element of the service because they speak to “word people,” help…

Dealing with Grief in the Aftermath of Suicide

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The 21st century has seen a significant rise in suicide rates. Nearly 45,000 American lives are lost to suicide every year, making it the 10th leading cause of death in…

7 Popular Sympathy Flowers and Their Meanings

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Sympathy flowers are a great way to show support to a family that is grieving the loss of a loved one. As Dr. Alan Wolfelt tells us, symbols such as…

Top 10 Hymns for a Funeral Ceremony

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Music is an important element of a funeral ceremony because it helps us to process feelings that are difficult to put into words. As Dr. Alan Wolfelt tells us, music…

What is a Gathering?

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Also known as a post-funeral reception, the gathering is a final opportunity to experience community with others and to offer support before returning home. The gathering allows friends to strengthen…

“A Clear Midnight”

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“A Clear Midnight”   by Walt Whitman This is thy hour O Soul, thy free flight into the wordless, Away from books, away from art, the day erased, the lesson…

“Death, Be Not Proud”

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“Death, Be Not Proud” by John Donne Death, be not proud, though some have called thee Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so; For those whom thou think’st thou…

“The Road Not Taken”

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“The Road Not Taken” by Robert Frost Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked…

“Requiem”

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“Requiem” by Robert Louis Stevenson Under the wide and starry sky Dig the grave and let me lie: Glad did I live and gladly die, And I laid me down…

“If I Can Stop One Heart from Breaking”

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“If I Can Stop One Heart from Breaking” by Emily Dickinson If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain; If I can ease one…

“Success”

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“Success” By Bessie Anderson Smith* He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much; who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent…

Psalm 23

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Psalm 23 David, The Book of Psalms (KJV) The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside…

Honoring our Veterans on Independence Day

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This Fourth of July, many will gather for swim parties, burger grilling, and firework displays. We do these things because we want to reflect the American spirit on the day…

Grief and Professional Help: When to Consider Therapy

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Grief is normal. It hurts to lose someone dear to you, and it makes sense to acknowledge this pain. Everybody must go through a grieving process when losing a loved…

Technology and Your Grief Journey

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The technological developments of the 21st century have touched every aspect of lives, and the ways in which we deal with loss and cope with grief are transforming. The rise…

Building a Legacy

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Making a Difference We all want to leave our fingerprints on the world. When we reflect on our mortality, we inevitably find ourselves wondering how we want to be remembered…

Living Better: Positive Psychology and Health

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Positive Thinking Want to feel younger and healthier? Being happy may help. Studies suggest that positive thinking can significantly improve physical and mental health. It’s not always easy to view…

What Two Funerals for One Elderly Woman Can Teach Funeral Directors

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By Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Dr. Alan Wolfelt has long talked about the “whys” of funeral rituals, why they are important to families. His latest book addresses the “hows,” how…

How to Select a Casket

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If you decide on a traditional burial for you or your loved one, the next important decision that you will need to make is determining the type of casket. Before…

Dealing With Grief on Father’s Day

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Father’s Day is almost here, and if you have recently lost a father or child, Father’s Day can be a particularly painful time of year. Fathers fill an irreplaceable role…

Top 10 Songs for a Funeral Ceremony

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Music and Ceremony Music can be a powerful component of the funeral ceremony because it allows us to process our feelings in a very special way. Grief counselor and educator…

The Paradoxes of Mourning Part 3 of 3: Backtracking on the Route to Healing

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By Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt Paradox 3: Mourners must go backward before they can go forward. A paradox is a seemingly self-contradictory statement or situation that is in fact often…

Grief and Loss in the Digital Age

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Is There Room for Technology in the Funeral Profession? People often associate funeral homes with tradition, order, and family values. When they think of technology, they think innovation, variety, and…

Selecting and Installing a Grave Marker

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We all have a need to memorialize those who have gone before us. For thousands of years, humans have used memorials to commemorate important people and events. By choosing a…

Managing Your Digital Estate

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Digital Assets The Information Age has complicated the process of end-of-life planning. Not only do we need to focus on planning the funeral and dividing up our estate among our…

The Paradoxes of Mourning Part 2 of 3: The Dark Night of the Soul

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By Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Paradox 2: Mourners must make friends with the darkness before they can enter the light. A paradox is a seemingly self-contradictory statement or situation that…

The Paradoxes of Mourning Part 1 of 3: Creating Hello Opportunities

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By Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt Paradox 1: Families must say hello before they can say goodbye A paradox is a seemingly self-contradictory statement or situation that is in fact often…

Sorting Through a Loved One’s Possessions

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If you have lost a loved one, you may find yourself dreading the day when you have to dispose of your loved one’s favorite shirt or the books on the…

Crafting a Eulogy

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What is a Eulogy? A eulogy is a speech given at a funeral that celebrates the life of a loved one. It comes from the Greek word eulogia, which means…

Developing Your Advance Care Directive

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What is an Advance Care Directive? An advance care directive (ACD), also known as an advance healthcare directive (AHD), ensures that your medical wishes will be followed when you are…

Celebrating World Poetry Day: How Poetry Can Help You on Your Grief Journey

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While you may not know it, March 21st is World Poetry Day, which provides us with a great opportunity to talk about the important role that poetry can play in…

Finding Meaning in St. Patrick’s Day

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The Rituals You know the drill. On March 17th, you’ll put on our greenest attire in honor of St. Patty’s Day, maybe catch a parade, and celebrate the luck of…

Mourning at the Movies: Manchester by the Sea and the Academy Awards

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It’s Oscar time again. On Sunday, February 26, all of the glitter and glamour and pomp and splendor will be on full display. This year, one of the leading films…

Funeral Etiquette Infographic

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This infographic shares basic funeral etiquette guidelines for attending a funeral and supporting a friend after a loss.

Why Plan Ahead Infographic

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This infographic shares important information and statistics on planning ahead for funeral wishes.

What is a Memorial Service?

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A memorial service is similar to a funeral service in many ways. The main difference is that at a funeral, the body is present as a focal point for the…

Writing Your Will: How to Avoid Common Pitfalls

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This story is all too common. A parent dies without a legal will, and the adult children must face not only their grief, but the headache of moving the estate…

What Is Embalming?

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Embalming is the process of temporarily preserving a body for public viewing or transportation. The main function of embalming is to provide an opportunity for the bereaved family and friends…

Coping with Grief on Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day can be a beautiful opportunity to celebrate your relationships, whether your loved ones are here with you or whether they have been gone for some time. For those…

How Do Actions Help Us Heal?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt examines some of the actions that help make a ceremony more special and meaningful. Elements of action bring meaning to the people involved in the…

The Importance of Symbols

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt talks about the value of symbols during a time of loss. Symbols Convey Love When words are inadequate, we often use symbols that express our…

How do Readings Enhance the Funeral Experience?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the purpose of readings in a funeral setting. Group readings contribute to the service in meaningful ways: Speak to “Word People” A good funeral…

What is the Hierarchy of Needs After Losing a Loved One?

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Dr. Wolfelt has spent decades studying across cultures and age groups to discover the universal purposes that funerals serve. He has concluded that the funeral serves six functions, and that…

What is the Difference Between Grief and Mourning?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the difference between grief and mourning, two terms often conflated. Grief is Internal While they are often used interchangeably, the words grief and mourning…

The 6 Needs of Mourning

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt explains the six “yield signs,” or needs that a person has when a loved one dies. Funerals are rites of initiation that help people to…

The Paradoxes of Mourning

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt provides three different lenses through which we can view the process of grief and the movement from pain to acceptance. Hello Before Goodbye Throughout history,…

Why Should the Body Be Present?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the importance of the body and shows how having the “guest of honor” present contributes to a healthy and healing funeral service. Acknowledging the…

Why Include Special Music in a Funeral Ceremony?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt talks about the role that music plays in allowing you to process your feelings about a loved one’s passing. The Inadequacy of Words Music is…

What is a Eulogy?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses how the eulogy allow us to process grief in a healthy and meaningful way: Recalls the Life The eulogy is a period of remembrance….

What is the Difference Between a Celebration of Life and a Party?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the important role that grief plays in the funeral ceremony. Celebrating a Life Our culture encourages us to avoid sad or painful feelings. This…

Will a Funeral Bring Closure?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt dispels the popular notion that a funeral is an opportunity for closure. A Rite of Initiation In recent years, there has been a tendency to…

What is the Purpose of a Funeral Procession?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the important function of the funeral procession and the impact that it has on the family and the broader community. Honoring the Loved One…

What Are the Elements of a Meaningful Funeral?

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In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the heart graphic that he created as a tool to outline the elements of the funeral. The Hierarchy To convey the value of funerals,…

Why Have a Visitation?

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Having a visitation or viewing prior to the funeral ceremony can be of great value to a bereaved family. In this video, Dr. Wolfelt shows the history of visitations and…

Grieving During the Holiday Season

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The absence of a loved one during the holidays can bring extremely painful feelings to the surface. Just as you’ve found your groove in a “new normal,” the holidays come…

Why Do We Have Funerals?

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Dr. Wolfelt explains why we have had funerals since the beginning of time and the role that the funeral plays in a grieving person’s healing journey. Dr. Wolfelt shares the 6 needs that a meaningful funeral can help to meet for a family.

Funeral Etiquette

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A funeral is an emotional time for a lost loved one’s family and friends. If you have been invited to attend a funeral, it is helpful to know proper funeral etiquette. Keep in mind that as culture has evolved, so have funerals and funeral etiquette. Traditional services are at times being replaced by more informal celebrations of life. So when no two services are identical, how do you know what etiquette is expected?

What Are My Burial Options?

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Burial traditions across many cultures have one thing in common—that a permanent resting place is essential for honoring and remembering loved ones. When considering burial options for yourself or a…

Rituals and Traditions that Help Us Heal

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Traditions and rituals help us to express our deepest thoughts about life’s most significant events. Special ceremonies like graduations, weddings, and baby dedications involve traditions and rituals that help us…

Grieving Well During the Halloween Season

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As the seasons change, you may begin to see Halloween décor pop up all around your neighborhood. Spider webs and tombstones, skeletons and caution tape, and all manner of ghouls…

What Is Green Burial?

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Green burials have become increasingly popular in recent years. Founded on the belief that death care practices shouldn’t be harmful to the environment, green, or natural, burials aim to leave…

What Should I Know When Considering Cremation?

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How Cremation Works Cremation is the process of using high temperatures and evaporation to reduce a body to its most basic elements. With cremation, the body is placed in a…

What You Need to Know about Anatomical Donation

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What Does it Mean to Be an Organ Donor and a Whole Body Donor? Anatomical donation typically refers to the donation of the whole body to medical or scientific research….

Medicaid Qualification Rules and How to Spend Down With a Burial Plan

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If you need to qualify for Medicaid coverage for long term care, you may be trying to think of smart ways to spend down your assets. Burial plans can be set up as exempt assets so that they are not counted when applying for Medicaid coverage. This way, you are able to preserve some assets that your family will need one day.

What You Need to Know About Veterans’ Burial Benefits

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Many veterans and their families are uninformed about the burial benefits they can expect to receive at the time of death. Some veterans assume that Veterans Affairs (VA) will pay…

What Are My Burial Benefits as a Veteran?

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When a veteran dies, the surviving spouse may receive a Veterans Administration allowance as partial reimbursement for an eligible veteran’s burial/cremation and funeral costs. The benefit is higher if the…

Veterans’ Burial Benefits Checklist

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To download a PDF version of this checklist, click here. As a veteran, you can ensure that you and your family receive the burial benefits you are entitled to with…

Veterans’ Burial Benefits FAQ

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What are my burial benefits as a veteran? The VA offers burial benefits for eligible veterans, their spouses, and their dependent children. The VA offers eligible veterans a burial space…

Funeral Planning Checklist

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If you want to plan ahead for your funeral wishes or plan a funeral for a loved one, the checklist below will help you in making important decisions:

Social Security Benefits

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When a loved one dies, there are certain things you need to know about survivor’s benefits. You should immediately contact the local Social Security Office and apply for survivor’s benefits…

Help Your Family Heal After Loss

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One of the hardest experiences of one’s life is losing a loved one. Families can experience devastation, confusion, guilt, and regret after a loved one passes. The road to healing can be difficult to navigate if essential needs and feelings are not tended to appropriately.

Should I Have a Funeral?

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A meaningful funeral can be beneficial in helping surviving family members process their emotions about a loss. According to an article in Psychology Today by Russell Friedman, grief expert, author,…

What Makes a Funeral Meaningful?

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If you are wondering how to plan a final celebration that is meaningful and that expresses the individuality of the person who died, then here are a few ideas to create an especially healing funeral tribute.

How to Make a Funeral More Personal

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Each person deserves a final ceremony that is as unique as their individual life. These ceremonies should reflect the person’s unique personality and honor the memories they made during their lifetime. Here are a few ways you can create a personalized final farewell celebration.

Why Plan Ahead for Funeral Wishes?

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You plan for everything in life — birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, vacations, homes, retirement, and much more. Why shouldn’t you also plan for final wishes? While no one likes to think about their own demise, the fact remains that one day, your family will need to make dozens of hard decisions to arrange for your final life

How to Get Started With Funeral Planning

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Planning ahead for your final wishes is simple and only takes about an hour to complete. There are three basic steps to creating a healing and meaningful funeral plan that will help your family cope with your loss on one of the hardest days of their lives.

How to Save Money with Funeral Planning

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According to the latest national statistics from the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA), the average cost of a funeral increased by 3% from 2014 to 2017. This price includes the…

Protecting Your Funeral Funds

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There are many ways to take care of the financial aspect of a funeral in advance. However, not all payment methods are created equal. Each method has its own risks and benefits, so it is up to you to decide which payment method is right for you.

Dealing with Grief on Mother’s Day

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Mother’s Day is a special day to honor the mothers who have done so much for us. But Mother’s Day is often a very difficult time for two sets of…