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What Clothing Do I Need to Provide for a Viewing?

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While families sometimes choose to skip the viewing, it plays an important role in grieving. A viewing or visitation provides time for those who are grieving to gather together and support…
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11 Tips for Planning a DIY Estate Sale

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After the death of a loved one, you may find yourself needing to sort out that person’s physical estate – their home and belongings. This task can be difficult, especially…
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What Are My Burial Benefits as a Veteran?

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When you’re planning a funeral for a veteran, it’s always a good idea to look into the burial benefits that are available through the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA). Some…
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Living Better: How Positive Thinking Can Improve Your Life

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As we get older, we tend to reflect on our lives and examine how we’ve lived. Did we live a meaningful life? Have we left behind a legacy that we’re proud…
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Everything You Need to Know About Government-Issued Veteran Headstones

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Whether you're planning a funeral for a loved one who was a veteran or planning ahead for your own funeral, it's important to learn about the burial benefits available to eligible veterans. One benefit…
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Quick Guide: Selecting and Installing a Grave Marker

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As human beings, we have an innate desire to remember and be remembered. This is one reason why permanent memorials, such as grave markers and memorial plaques, are so important.…
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Protect Your Pet: 4 Steps to Create an Estate Plan for Your Pet

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When creating an estate plan, most people think about caring for their families after they die. But what about your pets? How do you know that your pet will continue…
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Honoring Our Fallen Heroes: Vietnam Women’s Memorial

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"I want to say how proud I was of the women I served with, and how much we cared for these young men who served during that era. I'm so…

Honoring Our Fallen Heroes: Air Force Memorial

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"A soldier can walk the battlefields where he once fought, a Marine can walk the beaches he once stormed, but an airman can never visit the patch of sky he…
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Hospice Volunteers: Why They’re Important and How You Can Help

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Hospice volunteers play a vital role in end-of-life care. From sitting with patients to assisting behind the scenes, volunteers give their time and energy to help those navigating the final chapters…
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Grief Support Options to Consider After Suicide Loss

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In the United States, suicide has become a leading cause of death, reaching nearly 50,000 deaths in 2022. With each death, it’s estimated that there are six or more “suicide…
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How to Personalize the Eulogy at a Funeral

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The funeral is a time to truly honor and remember a loved one’s life, but how can you personalize the service to reflect that special person’s personality, preferences, interests, and…
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7 Tips for Planning a Memorial Service

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Do you know the main difference between a memorial service and a funeral service? At a funeral service, the deceased’s body is present, either in an open or closed casket.…
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11 Ways to Remember Your Mom on Mother’s Day

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After losing a loved one, some days are harder than others. Your grief may feel stronger on special days like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, or their deathiversary. If you’ve lost your…
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Dealing with Grief on Mother’s Day

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Mother’s Day is a special day, set aside to honor the mothers who have done so much for us. But Mother’s Day is often a very difficult day for two…

Embalming 101: A Beginner’s Guide

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An ancient process that has evolved greatly over the centuries, embalming is common in our modern world. But what actually is this process, and why is it important? Embalming is…

12 Modern Christian Songs for a Final Tribute

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When honoring and remembering a loved one’s life, music plays a pivotal role. It helps mourners recall memories, comforts the soul, and brings tears to the eyes. And the music…
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Practical Ways to Support a Grieving Pet

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While pets may not fully grasp the significance of death, they can deeply feel the loss of a human or animal companion. The depth of feeling will vary from pet…
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Do You Know About These 8 Cemetery Expenses?

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When you buy a car or plan a vacation or throw a 50th anniversary party, you take time to consider your options and review your budget. If you’re planning to…
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How to Leave a Meaningful Legacy

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We all want to leave our fingerprints on the world. When we reflect on our mortality, we inevitably wonder how we’ll be remembered and what we want to accomplish before…
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11 Questions to Ask When Choosing a Cemetery Plot

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More than likely, purchasing a cemetery plot is only something you will do once or twice in your lifetime. While choosing a cemetery plot is a personal decision, it can…
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How Rituals and Traditions Help Us Heal

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Sometimes, it’s hard to know what to think or how to process a loss that hurts so deeply it takes your breath away. That’s where traditions and rituals can help.…
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5 Ways Grief is Expressed in the Easter Story

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For Christians around the world, Easter is a time for both thoughtful contemplation and joyful triumph. The holiday revolves around the life of Jesus Christ and His death and resurrection,…

5 Differences Between Sealer & Non-sealer Caskets

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When planning a funeral, it’s easy to feel a little overwhelmed by all the new terms and definitions. If you are interested in burial as your method of final disposition,…
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Funeral Etiquette: “In Lieu of Flowers” and Donations

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Have you come across an obituary that asks for donations in lieu of flowers? The phrase "in lieu of flowers" has been used in funeral service for years. But what…
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How to Personalize the Visitation at a Funeral

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The funeral is a time to truly honor and remember a loved one’s life, but how can you use personalization to reflect that special person’s personality, preferences, interests, and uniqueness?…
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8 Ways to Express Your Grief

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After losing a loved one, it’s natural to want to avoid things that trigger your grief, like your loved one’s clothes, their favorite song, or a place that was special…
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How to Personalize Readings at a Funeral

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The funeral is a time to truly honor and remember a loved one’s life, but how can you personalize the service to reflect that special person’s personality, preferences, interests, and…

Sorting Through a Loved One’s Possessions

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If you have lost a loved one, you may dread the day when you have to give away your loved one's favorite shirt, well-loved books, or old golf balls. Possessions…
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5 Ways to Save Money When Funeral Planning

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Across all businesses and industries, prices are going up. Gas prices, groceries, housing, transportation, manufacturing, and yes, even funeral costs. According to the National Funeral Directors Association, in 2021, the average…

5 Things You Didn’t Know You Could Do for a Funeral

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For many years, every funeral was pretty much the same – copy & paste – but times are changing! Today, most families and funeral homes are moving away from cookie-cutter…
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Live Without Regrets: 7 Ways to Live Life to the Fullest

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Have you ever wondered what you’ll think about at the end of your life? What memories will you think of? What will you regret? What changes can you make now…

How to Personalize Music at a Funeral

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The funeral is a time to honor and remember a loved one’s life, but how can you personalize the service to reflect that person’s personality, preferences, interests, and uniqueness? According…
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Comforting Poems After the Loss of a Father

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Good dads are strong pillars, men we can count on, lean on, and depend on throughout our lives. For those lucky enough to have an outstanding dad, his loss can…
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3 Ways to Protect Your Funeral Funds

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There are many ways to take care of the financial aspect of a funeral in advance. However, not all payment methods are created equal. Each method has its own risks…

6 Ways to Combat Loneliness on Valentine’s Day

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If you’ve recently lost a spouse, partner, or significant other, you may be experiencing loneliness on Valentine’s Day. And that’s completely normal and to be expected. Your natural inclination may…
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Developing Your Advance Care Directive

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Have you recorded your preferences for medical care through an Advance Care Directive? Most people remember to write a will and put their funeral wishes in writing, but it’s also…
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5 Ways to Avoid Emotional Overspending on a Funeral

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Have you ever bought something because of your emotions, like sadness, anxiety, or stress? Most of us have used purchasing to make us feel better. In fact, as many as 69%…
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The Healing Power of Music Therapy in Hospice

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If you or a loved one are receiving end-of-life care, you may be looking for ways to bring a little joy to each day. Hospice care is focused on managing…
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The Simple Guide to Funeral Etiquette

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A funeral is an emotional time for a lost loved one’s family and friends. If you have been invited to attend a funeral, it is helpful to know proper funeral…
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A Quick Guide to Oversized Caskets

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While you may have known that caskets come in different colors and are made from many kinds of materials, did you know that there are also oversized caskets available? In…
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9 Songs from the 1970s for a Celebration of Life

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Music is powerful - it can help us express our emotions and open us up to feelings we’re avoiding. That’s why choosing the right songs for a funeral can make…
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Cooking for One: Resources and Tips for the Grieving

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When you lose your spouse or partner, everyday tasks like cooking can feel impossible. Maybe your loved one handled all of the cooking and you don’t know where to start.…
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FAQ: Donating Your Body to Science

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If you’re reading this, you’re at least a little bit interested in donating your body to science. To help you make the decision that’s best for you and your family,…
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Why Your Presence at the Funeral Matters

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In our culture today, there’s a tendency to do whatever is necessary to avoid pain and unpleasant feelings. This is one reason why people want to avoid the funeral –…
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Healing Your Holiday Grief

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By Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt If you could go back in time and relive a special holiday, which one would you choose? Close your eyes for a moment and think…
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11 Pet Memorial Keepsakes to Consider

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Pets are a welcome addition to our lives. They bring comfort, hope, laughter, joy, and companionship. Unfortunately, you will outlive many pets during your lifetime, but that doesn’t mean you…
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9 Ways to Cope with a Loved One’s Deathiversary

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If you’ve lost a loved one, you probably know that some days are harder than others. Grief can surge on holidays, birthdays, and other special days. The anniversary of a…
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Should I Have a Funeral?

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The days after a loved one dies can be filled with many questions. “Should I choose burial or cremation?” “How do I write an obituary?” And for many families, “Should…
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Writing an Obituary with AI: Dos and Don’ts

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After losing a loved one, there’s a long list of things that must be taken care of. At a time when you’re grieving and coming to terms with your loved…
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6 Ways to Help a Grieving Friend at Thanksgiving

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With food to prepare, family trips to manage, and upcoming holidays to plan for, Thanksgiving can be a busy and stressful time. For those grieving at Thanksgiving, this season can…
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Coping with Grief: What are Grief Triggers?

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After the loss of a loved one, we all experience grief, but every grief journey is different because every person is different. What you feel really depends on your personality…
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8 Tips for Managing Your Digital Estate

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While the internet and advances in technology have made so many aspects of life easier, they’ve made estate planning a little bit harder. Now, you not only need to focus…
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What to Expect at a Grief Support Group

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Losing someone you love is hard, and you may feel overwhelmed as you navigate life without your loved one. You’re not alone! While everyone grieves differently, many people find themselves…

What is a Funeral Honorarium?

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Every funeral comes expenses, such as the professional services of the funeral home staff, casket or urn, cremation permit, cemetery plot, and so on. One expense you may not have…
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Download Your Own Funeral Planning Checklist

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If you want to plan ahead for your funeral wishes or plan a funeral for a loved one, the checklist below will help you in making important decisions:
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FAQ: Your Guide to Scattering Ashes

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When you choose cremation, there are more questions to answer than you might think. A key question is, “What should happen to the ashes after cremation is complete?” There are…
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How to Make an Estate Planning Checklist

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Most of us know that estate planning is important, but many people don’t take care of their estate planning because they find it intimidating. There are so many estate planning…
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5 Strategies to Cope with Anticipatory Grief

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You are likely familiar with feelings of grief, but did you know that there are different variations of grief? Of course, the experience of grief is different from person to person, but sometimes…
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Rental Caskets: What You Need to Know

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Cremation may be on the rise, but that doesn’t mean you can’t plan a full service to celebrate a loved one’s life with viewing and visitation. Many families assume that…
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Coping with Loss During the Halloween Season

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As the seasons change, you may see Halloween décor pop up around your neighborhood. Spider webs and tombstones, skeletons and caution tape, and all manner of ghouls and goblins begin…
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What Makes a Funeral Meaningful?

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If you are wondering how to plan a final celebration that is meaningful and that expresses the individuality of the person who died, then here are a few ideas to…
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Understanding the Catholic Funeral Rite

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The Catholic funeral rite is a time-honored tradition that allows the Catholic community to gather in support of the bereaved and to commend dear departed loved ones into God’s loving…
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5 Emotional Benefits to Funeral Preplanning

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There are many practical benefits to funeral preplanning – like saving money, qualifying for Medicaid, and having funeral funds set aside to pay for everything – but did you know…
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Remembering Loved Ones Through Baking

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Some things are universal, across every culture and background. Having an emotional connection between memory and food is one of those things. As human beings, we connect with others through…
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10 Songs from the 1960s for a Celebration of Life

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One of the most important parts of a funeral is music. When we're grieving, music helps us express our feelings in ways that words can’t and helps us feel the…
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Burial FAQs: What Are Your Burial Options?

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Burial traditions across many cultures have one thing in common—a permanent resting place is essential for honoring and remembering loved ones. But you have many options when choosing a permanent…
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What Should I Know When Considering Cremation?

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When considering final disposition, you have two main choices: burial or cremation. But what should you know when considering cremation? With this quick overview, you can get your questions answered…
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9 Tips for Staying Physically Healthy While Grieving

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After the death of a loved one, you’re going to experience a variety of emotions. Every person is different, but the emotions will range from sadness and confusion, to anger,…
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Your Guide to Scattering Ashes at U.S. National Parks

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There are countless ways to honor a loved one’s life and memory. It’s just a matter of finding the options that are 1) meaningful to the family and 2) beautifully…
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Answering Your Green Burial Questions

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Perhaps you’ve heard the term “green burial,” but it doesn’t really mean anything to you. Today, we’re going to dive into what it is, how it differs from standard burial,…
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5 Key Veteran Burial Benefits You Should Know

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As a veteran, you know there are a lot of great benefits out there for you, like discounts, educational grants and scholarships, pension, and healthcare. But are you familiar with…
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Can Exercise Help You Grieve?

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You may have noticed that grief puts a lot of stress on your mind and body. To combat that stress, your body’s natural response is to release a hormone called…
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The Importance of Laughter in Hospice Care

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When you or someone you love receives a terminal diagnosis, the last thing you may feel like doing is laughing. As the transition to end-of-life care begins, you may feel…
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Funerals, Cosmetology, and the Restorative Arts

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The loss of a loved one raises many questions, including what happens to a loved one’s body after it is transferred to the funeral home. You may be wondering how…
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9 Qualities to Look for in a Grief Support Group

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When you first lose a loved one, your friends and family may provide all the care and support you need. But over time, you may require other outlets to process…
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10 Ideas for Making a Funeral More Personal

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Each person deserves a final ceremony that is as unique as their individual life. These ceremonies should reflect the person’s unique personality and honor the memories they made during their…
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Does Hospice Provide Medical Equipment and Supplies?

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For most families, hospice care takes place right inside the home. But your home isn’t a medical facility – how do you access the medical equipment and supplies needed to…
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How Can a Prearranged Funeral Plan Help You Qualify for Medicaid?

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If you need to qualify for Medicaid coverage for long term care, you may be trying to think of smart ways to spend down your assets. Burial plans can be…
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Veterans’ Burial Benefits Checklist

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Did you know that the government provides burial benefits for eligible veterans? Every year, many veterans miss out on receiving these burial benefits because they don’t know what’s available to…
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Can Animals Help You Grieve?

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Grieving the loss of a loved one looks different for everyone. Each person has their own unique needs and ways of coping with a loss. But did you know that…
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Know Your Rights: The FTC Funeral Rule

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In every industry you can think of – funeral care, telemarketing, advertising, healthcare – the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) has set certain protections in place. In other words, every industry…
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Identifying a Dishonest Funeral Home: 7 Warning Signs

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Most funeral homes are staffed by hardworking, caring, and compassionate people. But every once in a while, you might come across a funeral home that does not have your best…
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How You Can Support a Child After Parent Suicide

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Losing a loved one to suicide is devastating at any age, but it has a deep, formative impact on children. Johns Hopkins Children’s Center has done extensive research and found…

10 of America’s Oldest Cemeteries You Should Visit

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After a loved one dies, it’s normal to fear losing your connection to them. That’s one reason why cemeteries are an excellent place to connect with lost loved ones, to…
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10 Literary Readings for Any Type of Funeral

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As you plan a healing and meaningful funeral for a loved one, it’s essential that you find ways to make it personal. According to Dr. Alan Wolfelt, nationally recognized grief…
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Help Your Family Heal After Loss

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One of the hardest experiences of one’s life is losing a loved one. Families can experience devastation, confusion, guilt, and regret after a loved one passes. The road to healing…
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Gifting Sympathy Flowers: A Practice that Goes Back Millennia

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If you’ve attended a funeral or memorial service, you’ve likely seen a cascade of beautiful sympathy flowers gracing the front of the chapel, church, or venue. Whether burial or cremation…
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Understanding Social Security Survivor Benefits

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After the death of a loved one, you may not feel like applying for Social Security survivor benefits right away because everything feels overwhelming. However, if you do put it…
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Ladies of Liberty: Remembering Deborah Sampson

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“I became an actor in that important drama with an inflexible resolution to persevere through the last scene, when we might be permitted and acknowledged to enjoy what we had…
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Ladies of Liberty: Remembering Abigail Adams

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“To be good, and do good, is the whole duty of man comprised in a few words.” – Abigail Adams As we mark the Fourth of July and the independence…
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What to Do When Things Go Wrong at a Funeral

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Attending a loved one’s funeral can be emotionally challenging, and you may feel grief, pain, and confusion at the ceremony. That’s where having a problem-free funeral for your loved one…
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Grief and Father’s Day: Remembering Your Child

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Father's Day, like other holidays, can be a trying time for those grieving – especially for fathers who have lost a child. While losing a loved one is never easy,…
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11 Songs from the 1950s for a Celebration of Life

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Did you know that you can use your loved one’s favorite music to personalize their funeral? Music plays an important role in a funeral by helping mourners express emotions they…

Can You Die of a Broken Heart?

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At some point in your life, you’ve likely heard the phrase that someone “died of a broken heart.” In most cases, people use this expression to refer to someone who…
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How to Get Started With Funeral Preplanning

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Planning ahead for your final wishes is simple and only takes about an hour to complete. There are three basic steps to creating a healing and meaningful funeral plan that…
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How to Offer Condolences Via Text or DM

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In today’s world, we’re more connected than ever, and it’s more common to text message or direct message a friend than to call them. This is especially true now that…

10 Songs from the 1940s for a Celebration of Life

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Music plays a vital role in a funeral service or celebration of life. Songs played at a funeral can set the tone for the service, open us up to feelings we’ve been…

6 Ways to Say Thank You to a Funeral Home

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During a time of loss, it’s common to feel lost, overwhelmed, and a little anxious. When the funeral home steps into your grief and provides top-quality care and compassionate service,…

Mourning as a Community in the Face of Tragedy

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Senseless. Horrifying. Heartbreaking. No words can capture the disbelief and heartbreak we feel at learning about the mass shooting in Allen, Texas, at Allen Premium Outlets. At this time eight…
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6 Ways to Personalize a Casket

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When planning a funeral service, the best way to create a truly unique, one-of-a-kind experience is to add personalized touches throughout the events. That might mean selecting special music, choosing…
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How to Help a Teenager Navigate Suicide Loss

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Losing a loved one is hard, and losing someone to suicide can be even more challenging. Suicide is often stigmatized by society, and mourners must wrestle with questions they’ll likely…
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Veterans’ Burial Benefits FAQ

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With so many benefits available to veterans, it’s hard to keep track of all of them. To help you out, here’s a list of frequently asked questions about burial benefits…
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Honoring Our Fallen Heroes: Arlington National Cemetery

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“Our debt to the heroic men and valiant women in the service of our country can never be repaid. They have earned our undying gratitude. America will never forget their…
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Honoring Our Fallen Heroes: Marine Corps War Memorial

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“Among those who served on Iwo Jima, uncommon valor was a common virtue.” – Fleet Admiral Chester W. Nimitz Memorial Day is a day set aside every year to honor…
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Why Plan Ahead for Funeral Wishes?

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You plan for everything in life -- birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, vacations, homes, retirement, and much more. Why shouldn't you also plan for final wishes? While no one likes to think…
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Is My Pet Grieving?

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Have you noticed behavioral changes in your pet? If you’ve recently lost a member of your family – human or animal - then your pet may be grieving. Pets are…
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How to Create a Funeral Wishes Box

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A personalized funeral can be a very healing and meaningful experience for loved ones. But how can you ensure that they have that one-of-a-kind experience? The answer is by doing…
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130+ Questions Your Family Will Have to Answer After a Death

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Most people don’t realize just how many questions surviving family members will need to answer following the death of a loved one. That’s why advance preparation is so important. From…
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7 Benefits of Joining a Grief Support Group

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After the death of someone you love, it’s hard to come to grips with your new reality. Figuring out how to move forward, how to do life, without their presence…

6 Items You Shouldn’t Include in Your Will

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No matter what age you are, creating a will is a great way to prepare for the future. A legal will is a document that lays out your wishes for…
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Cemetery Etiquette: 6 Tips for Visiting a Cemetery

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Visiting your loved one’s grave can be an important part of your grief journey - it can help you process your loss and reflect on memories of your loved one.…
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11 Qualities to Look for in a Funeral Director

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Losing a loved one can bring pain, grief, uncertainty, and confusion. A loss can also leave you with the responsibility of planning a funeral, requiring you to answer questions that…
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Sympathy Gifts You Can Mail

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If someone you know has recently suffered the loss of a loved one, it’s natural to want to offer comfort and support. In fact, it’s a good thing. It shows…

Understanding Half-Couch versus Full-Couch Caskets

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After losing a loved one, a viewing or visitation can be a sweet moment of remembrance and an opportunity to say a final goodbye in person. As you put together…
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The 6 Needs of Mourning for Grieving Parents

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Losing a child is one of the most heartbreaking experiences any parent will ever face. It feels wrong and unnatural for a child to die before a parent, and you…
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Do You Have a Bucket List? Here’s Why You Should

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We all have things we want to accomplish before we die, but with all the demands in life, it’s hard to find the time (and resources) to do them all.…
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Why Should You Visit Your Loved One’s Grave at Easter?

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Easter is typically a joyful time, but if you’ve recently lost a loved one, you may find it difficult to find the hope that Easter usually represents. Your grief may…
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6 Ways You Can Save Money with Funeral Preplanning & Prefunding

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A recent survey revealed that while more than 50% of participants said they were likely to preplan their own funeral, only 7% of had actually done it. Many people understand…
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6 Ways to Honor a Loved One’s Memory at Easter

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While holiday grief is often more closely associated with Thanksgiving or Christmas, any holiday can stir up feelings of loss and sadness. If you are missing a lost loved one…

What Should I Say to Someone Who is Grieving?

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Let’s be honest, it’s hard to know what to say to someone who is grieving. It’s not because they are difficult to talk to or that you’re a poor conversationalist.…

Sympathy Cards: What to Write & Examples

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Sending someone a sympathy card is a thoughtful way to show your support and let the bereaved know that you are thinking of them. But what should you write in…
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3 Funeral Insurance Options You Should Know About

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If you’re reading this, then you understand how important it is to prepare for the future. You know that taking out an insurance policy to cover the cost of a…
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11 Classical Music Songs for a Funeral Service

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"Where words fail, music speaks." - Danish author Hans Christian Andersen In our greatest times of pain and grief, we often don't have the words to describe the intense emotions…
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9 Outdoor Memorial Ideas to Honor a Loved One

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When you’re grieving the death of a loved one, it helps to find just the right way to honor their life. Sometimes that may mean painting a portrait, creating a…
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4 Reasons Why Eulogies are Important

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Losing a loved one can be one of the toughest trials you face in life. And maybe the last thing you want in your time of grief is to stand…
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10 Famous & Inspiring Tombs Around the World

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While the practical purpose of a tomb is to protect the dead, there are examples around the world that prove a tomb can be so much more than that. In…
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The Beginner’s Guide to Death Certificates

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If you’ve recently lost a loved one, you know how overwhelming it can be. You’re grieving, but you may also be trying to take care of their affairs. As you…

4 Reasons Why You Should Update Your Will

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If you’ve written your will, you’ve already gotten a great start on your estate planning! But now that you’ve created a will, don’t just put it in a drawer and…
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Recognizing Unhealthy Coping Habits

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Losing someone you love can throw you off-balance and make you feel like you’re losing control of your life. This is completely normal in the early stages of grief. Whether…

5 Ways to Help Grieving Seniors

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From grandparents to elders in the community, you likely know several people who are 75 or older. Many of the seniors you know have probably found ways to stay active…

How to Write a Eulogy

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Being asked to write and present someone’s eulogy is a great honor and is often reserved for those closest to the person who died. But it can also be a…
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8 Physical Responses to Grief

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While we’re all familiar with the emotional aspects of grief – feeling sad, angry, shocked, relieved – the body can also respond physically to loss. For many people, the physical…

Honor Your Loved One this Valentine’s Day

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Chocolate-filled heart boxes, baby cupids, and red roses often signal the start of the season of love, which ultimately culminates with Valentine's Day and brings the chance to celebrate romantic…
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Gravestone Recipes: Adding a Sweet Touch to a Memorial Marker

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When planning a loved one’s funeral or memorial services, personalization is key to creating an event that is both healing and meaningful. The same is true when you’re considering what…
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The Strange & Unusual History of Embalming

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It’s always fascinating to delve into the history of a particular practice, event, or even where certain phrases and idioms originated. The same is true of embalming, where you definitely…
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What Christmas Movies Teach Us About Grief

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The holidays are always a hectic time, but when you’re grieving, they can be even more difficult because you feel your loved one’s absence more strongly. While you may not…
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Using Color to Personalize a Service

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Creating a personalized funeral or memorial service is the first step toward finding the healing and reconciliation you need after a loss. Why? Because if the service details truly reflect…
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Holiday Remembrance Activities for Grieving Parents

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If you have lost a child, you are probably very aware of the pain the holidays can bring. It might seem impossible to connect with the joy of the season…
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Understanding Embalming & Your Options

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Embalming may not be something you’ve given much thought to - other than a mild interest in Ancient Egyptian mummification practices. Thankfully, embalming today is much less complicated than in…
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5 Ancient Greek Funeral Customs You May (or May Not) Recognize

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The funeral ritual…is a public, traditional, and symbolic means of expressing our beliefs, thoughts, and feelings about the death of someone loved. – Dr. Alan Wolfelt Since the beginning of…
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Top 4 Misunderstandings Around Veterans’ Burial Benefits

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In a survey initiated by the Department of Veterans Affairs, it was found that more than 30% of veterans didn't know the eligibility requirements for burial in a national cemetery.…
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Is Grief Stealing Your Joy & Thankfulness?

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Grief seems to have a mind of its own sometimes. At the most unexpected and inconvenient moments, it shows up unannounced. You may be having dinner with family, walking down…

Finding Comfort in Ritual: Queen Elizabeth II’s Funeral

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With the death of Queen Elizabeth, multiple nations and millions of people plunged into mourning. While it was not unexpected due to her age, death still brings out a multitude…

Can You Name the 4 Different Types of Cemeteries?

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A cemetery is a cemetery, right? Well, to a degree, that’s true. However, there are actually several different types of cemeteries you should know about. Today, we’ll discuss the 4…
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6 Signs that It’s Time to Consider Hospice Care

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Choosing hospice care can be a difficult decision. Often, the conversation is hard and can bring a weight of reality to your situation. Even so, choosing end-of-life care may be…
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5 Things to Remember When Grieving a Sibling

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Losing a sibling can have a huge impact on your life. Siblings are often constants, with you throughout childhood and into adulthood. While relationships between siblings can be complex and…
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10 Books to Help You Through Suicide Loss

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Losing a loved one to suicide is one of the most heart-wrenching and confusing events you may face in your life. Why did this happen? Could I have done something…
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Tips for Talking to and Supporting Children after a School Shooting or Other Traumatic Loss: Dos and Don’ts

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Sadly, school shootings such as the one in Uvalde, Texas, are not a rarity here in the United States. Neither are mass shootings in other public places, such as entertainment…

Coping with Your Grief Over the Uvalde Murders

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Uvalde, Texas, is grieving. America is grieving. A single man has committed a crime of unimaginable violence, taking the lives of at least 21 people—19 of them children—and now an…
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Forever in Our Hearts: 10 Ways to Honor Dad’s Memory

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No dad is perfect, but some of them get pretty close. Whether you love every aspect of your dad or you are still healing from past hurts, you may want…
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4 Reasons to Keep Your Beneficiaries Up to Date

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Wouldn’t it be great if estate planning was a “one and done” type of task? If life came without change, then it could be, but we all know change is…
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Grieving the Death of an Adult Child

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Losing a child – at any age – is a devastating experience for parents. It feels unnatural and “out of order” for a child to die first, and no one…

Easter & the Search for Meaning After Loss

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Losing a loved one can be one of the most difficult things we experience in life. In fact, the word “bereavement” actually means to “be torn apart,” and how true…
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Can Grief Make You Forget Things?

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Grief can have a profound impact on us – mentally, emotionally, physically, and psychologically. And as weird as it sounds, grief actually can make you forget things. Why is that?…
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The Ins and Outs of Hospice Respite Care

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Caring for a terminally ill loved one is often equal parts rewarding and exhausting - physically, mentally, and emotionally. There are some amazing days where you make meaningful memories that…

5 Self-Care Tips When You’re Grieving on Valentine’s Day

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If you are grieving the loss of someone you love this Valentine’s Day, you may be tempted to push your feelings to the side and pretend that you’re just fine.…

What to Expect at a Preplanning Appointment

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Did you know you can put your funeral wishes in writing in advance? That’s where a preplanning specialist can help! They specialize in sitting down with you (and your family,…
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What’s the Difference Between a Funeral and Memorial Service?

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Have you ever planned a funeral or memorial service? If you haven’t, then you’re in good company. Most people haven’t. That's why it’s not surprising that you may not know…
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What is Advance Funeral Planning?

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After the death of a loved one, surviving family members must often answer between 100 – 200 questions before any kind of funeral or memorial service can take place. What’s…
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4 Places Where You Can Receive Hospice Care

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If you or a loved one have been dealing with an illness for a while, the words “hospice care” may strike your heart with fear and sadness. You may feel…
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5 Tips When Shipping Cremated Remains

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It’s impossible to know what circumstances you’re going to face after a loved one’s death. In some cases, it may become necessary to transport a loved one’s remains across a…
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Do You Know the Four Levels of Hospice Care?

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On the hospice journey, every person’s life situation and illness are different. One person may have a large family that will split care duties, while another person may have one…
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6 Ways to Personalize a Memorial Marker

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When visiting a cemetery, it can seem like your options are limited when choosing a memorial marker, but that’s not true. There are many options for creating a personalized monument…
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What You Need to Know About Flying with Cremated Remains

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Did you know that it’s possible to fly – both domestically and internationally – with cremated remains? While flying with cremated remains may not be something you've ever thought about…
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Practicing Remembrance & Gratitude During Times of Grief

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Grief can rear its head at any moment - at the dinner table, at a holiday family gathering, at the grocery store, or at a child’s piano recital. And this…
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7 Tips for Supporting a Grieving Friend at Halloween

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It’s Halloween. Costumes are coming out, parties are being planned, and thousands of pounds of candy is flying off the shelves across the nation. But even as people revel in…
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Palliative Care vs. Hospice Care: What’s the Difference?

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If you or a loved one have recently entered hospice care, all of the jargon and terminology may feel daunting and foreign. For many people, two terms that often become confusing are palliative care and hospice…

9/11: A Day to Remember Together

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The events of September 11, 2001, are forever ingrained in the memories of Americans (and people around the world) who were old enough to remember the day. Who could forget…

10 Funeral Etiquette Tips for Livestream Services

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Livestream funeral and memorial services are here to stay. As a society, we’ve found that livestreaming allows far away family and friends to participate in the meaningful and symbolic actions…
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Understanding Prepaid Funeral Insurance Policies

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We all know the value of being prepared. We buy car insurance, fire insurance, health insurance, life insurance – all just in case. When you stop to think about it,…
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Caring for Yourself Emotionally and Physically When Someone You Love is Dying

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If you have a friend or loved one who is dying, you’re likely dealing with a lot of feelings right now: sadness, shock, disbelief, anger, anxiety. It’s normal to experience…
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Who Qualifies for Hospice Care?

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If you or a loved one have received a terminal diagnosis or have experienced a sudden decline in health, your entire family is probably feeling sad, stressed, and emotionally drained.…
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Understanding the 7 Basic Hospice Services

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If you have a loved one who has been diagnosed with a terminal illness, you may feel a little out of your element as you look into hospice care. One…
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Creating Memory Capsules to Help Your Loved Ones Grieve

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Sometimes, leaving a tangible reminder is just what your family needs to grieve well. Tangible items give surviving family members something to hold when they miss you. Something they can…
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Helping Your Family Process a Loved One’s Terminal Diagnosis

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Learning that a member of your family has a terminal illness is often the most devastating news a family can receive. Your family is starting a journey they didn’t ask…
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What Services Do Funeral Homes Offer?

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You may think that funeral homes only plan and facilitate funeral and memorial services, but that’s not all they do. In fact, funeral homes have a wider range of services…
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Deciding How to Pay for Hospice Care

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Facing a terminal illness brings many worries and concerns but paying for end-of-life care shouldn’t be one of them. Thankfully, there are many ways to pay for hospice, and many…
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Processing & Accepting Your Terminal Diagnosis

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You’ve just received the news you’ve been dreading ever since you had that first appointment: your medical condition is terminal. Right now, you may be feeling so many emotions –…
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What Do Funeral Directors Do?

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Have you ever wondered exactly what funeral directors do? To most people, funeral service is a bit of a mystery. That's because a vast majority of people have never had…
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Grief & Self-Care After a Loved One’s Alzheimer’s Diagnosis

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You’ve received the news that someone you love has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia. You may feel numb, in shock, or unable to process what’s happening. Or, you may have seen the signs,…
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10 Ways to Emotionally Support a Dying Child (and Their Family)

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A child you care about is dying. You want to offer your love and care, but you’re not sure how to go about it. Whether you are a parent, friend,…

The History Behind Pallbearers

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More than likely, we’ve had pallbearers since mankind started having funerals. In other words, from the beginning of time. Certainly, they have not always been called “pallbearers,” but the function…
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How to Support a Dying Friend in their Final Days

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If you’re reading this, you have a friend who is dying, and you’re probably dealing with a lot of feelings. Facing the death of someone you care about is extremely…
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How to Select Pallbearers

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When choosing burial, there are many decisions to make, including whom to select as pallbearers. Whether you’re prearranging your funeral wishes or planning a funeral for a recently lost loved one, it’s important to select pallbearers who can fulfill their…
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A Mourning Father’s Bill of Rights

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Losing a child, no matter their age, is a heart-wrenching loss. Everything changes. As a father, you may feel like you let your child, your spouse/partner, your entire family down.…
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Protecting Your Family If Death Occurs Away from Home

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If you’re like many of us, you spend quite a bit of time traveling out of town. You may not be getting on a plane every time you travel, but…
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A Mourning Mother’s Bill of Rights

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As a mother, losing a child is a heart-wrenching loss. Everything changes. You may question your choices as a mother or even your ability to parent. You may blame yourself…

Grandparents, Your Grief Matters Too

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In so many ways, a grandparent’s grief following the loss of a grandchild is overlooked and unacknowledged. We all instantly think of mom, dad, and siblings, but more often than not, grandparents…
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Applying for a FEMA COVID-19 Funeral Reimbursement

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So many families across the United States have been hit hard by COVID-19 - emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially. Under the Coronavirus Response and Relief Supplemental Appropriations Act of 2021…

Everything You Need to Know about Death Doulas

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Have you heard about the growing use of death doulas for the terminally ill? No? Then you’re in luck. We’re going to take a look at what death doulas are,…

Explore the 4 Building Blocks of Ancient Egyptian Funeral Customs

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Egypt has a long and well-documented history. If you’re like many people, Ancient Egypt brings to mind sandy deserts,  grand pyramids, powerful pharaohs, creepy mummies, and priceless antiquities. As you envision the Great Pyramids of Giza, it’s impossible to forget a well-publicized and intriguing…

Easter Meditations for the Grieving Heart

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After the loss of a loved one, you may feel a little lost and alone, clinging to your faith in God, despite present circumstances. You may even be struggling this…
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8 Pallbearer Etiquette Tips

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Participating in a funeral as a pallbearer is a time-honored tradition and a sign of trust. It’s both an honor and a responsibility. After all, you have been asked to…

5 Alternative Methods of Final Disposition

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Choosing which method of final disposition is right for you is a very personal decision. For some, burial is most desirable, while for others, cremation is best. There is no…

What is Compounded Grief?

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There are times when the normal feelings of grief become even more difficult to cope with. This may be because of previous life experiences, the nature of the relationship and family…

7 Tips for Teaching Your Child How to Process Grief

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From the moment we enter this life, the journey is full of ups and downs. Moments of happiness, excitement, and meaning intermixed with moments of pain, anger, regret, and grief.…

5 Tips for Helping Your Child Process the Death of a Pet

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If you’ve ever owned a pet, you understand just how much you can come to love that animal. Whether it’s a dog, cat, guinea pig, ferret, fish, turtle, or rabbit,…

5 Tips for Announcing a Death on Social Media

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Announcing the death of a loved one is an incredibly difficult task. It forces you to acknowledge that someone you love has died, and in many ways, there’s just no…

10 Challenges Grieving Grandparents Face

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When a child dies, our thoughts immediately turn to the parents and the deep grief they must be feeling. And while this reaction is good, right, and warranted, we often…

Eulogies & Sharing a Loved One’s Legacy

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When a close loved one dies, you may be asked to give a eulogy. So, you may be wondering, where do I start? First of all, what is a eulogy?…

10 Tips for Processing Addiction or Suicide Loss

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Losing a loved one is hard and emotionally draining – every time. However, when you lose a loved one to suicide or addiction, the loss is not only hard, it…

What Do the Coins Left on Veteran Graves Mean?

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If you’ve ever visited a national or state veteran cemetery, you may have noticed coins left on grave markers. But did you know that each type of coin has special…

What is Complicated Grief?

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You are likely familiar with feelings of grief, but did you know that there are different variations of grief? Of course, the experience of grief is different from person to person, but sometimes “normal…

How to Talk to Children About Euthanizing a Pet

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Pets are a lovable, adorable, and often irreplaceable part of our families. Because of our attachment to them, the decision to euthanize a pet is incredibly difficult, especially when you…

Best Books on Grief for a Teenager

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Do you remember being a teenager and going through acne, mood swings, friendship drama, and all the rest? Imagine if you were going through all that plus grieving the loss…

Self-Care After Suicide Loss

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Grief, in all its forms, is exhausting mentally, physically, and psychologically. In addition to all the emotions it stirs up, loss forces us into a life change – learning how…

Understanding Your Grief: Hope for the Holidays

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This Christmas season, with the COVID-19 pandemic still affecting lives, Dr. Wolfelt shares a poignant message of hope and healing despite the unique challenges this year has forced upon us.…

What Do You Do When Someone Dies?

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If you’ve recently lost someone you love, you have our sincerest sympathies. For many of us, dealing with death and all the logistical and emotional details associated with it is…

How to Create a Memory Capsule

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Sometimes, words aren’t enough to fully express what you feel or say what you mean. In the times when words are inadequate, participating in healing rituals and actions plays a…

Death & Social Media: 10 Dos and Don’ts for Social Platforms

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While social media lets us communicate with each other quickly and efficiently, it’s also a place where people seem to forget the social etiquette that governs our face to face…

10 Myths About Grieving You May Believe

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Have you ever thought one thing and then found out it was completely wrong? It’s safe to say this has happened to everyone. We often get our understanding of grief…

What You Need to Know About Pet Burial and Cremation

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When a pet dies, we often feel a deep sense of loss. But no matter how we feel, we must also deal with the logistics of ensuring that our pet…

Making Christmas Meaningful with Family Interviews

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Christmas is a time to come together with loved ones and share in the joy of the season. There’s lots of food, fellowship, and conversations. While this Christmas may look…

Reducing Your Christmas Stress During Times of Grief

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Grief can be exhausting – mentally, physically, and emotionally. And Christmas, even though it’s often a joyful and festive season, has its share of stresses, especially during times of grief…

Kid-Friendly Holiday Remembrance Ideas

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After losing a loved one, the holidays can be very difficult for both kids and adults. You and your family may not feel up to all of the Christmas cheer…

Leaving a Legacy: Ruth Bader Ginsburg

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“To make life a little better for people less fortunate than you, that's what I think a meaningful life is. One lives not just for oneself but for one's community.”…

How to Create a Memorial Page on Facebook and Instagram

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More and more, people across the globe are cultivating a social media presence. Some put more effort into it than others, but for many of us, social media platforms like…

Ideas for Honoring Your Loved One’s Memory This Thanksgiving

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Missing a loved one during the holidays is hard. The traditions that used to bring you joy may feel a little hollow this year. You may feel an internal (or…
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Why Should Veterans Plan Ahead?

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As veterans, you gave a part of your life in committed service to our nation, and we offer you a sincere and heartfelt thank you. But did you know that…

What is Disenfranchised Grief?

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You are likely familiar with feelings of grief, but did you know that there are different forms of grief? Of course, the experience of grief is different from person to…

5 Powerful TED Talks about Grief and End-of-Life Wishes

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Planning for end-of-life wishes and walking through grief can both be very difficult seasons in life. But you don’t have to walk through them alone. Others have gone before us…

Practical Ways to Personalize the 7 Elements of a Funeral

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Planning a funeral after a loved one dies may seem overwhelming at first, and that’s okay. So many of us have never planned a funeral before and simply don’t know…

Top 15 Bible Verses for a Celebration of Life Service

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A Christian funeral service is not complete without a few readings from scripture. Readings can help mourners process the loss and find meaning in the midst of pain. Additionally, the…

4 Ways Visiting a Loved One’s Grave Can Help You Grieve

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Losing a loved one can cause our entire world to start spinning. For some of us, the spinning doesn’t completely stop for a while. One loss may take a year…

Supporting a Friend Dealing with Suicide Loss

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Any loss takes a toll on us emotionally, mentally, and physically. However, losing a loved one to suicide carries an extra level of challenge and confusion. Not only are suicide…

5 Practical Obituary Writing Tips

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If we’re honest, all too often obituaries are a little formulaic and offer only a few facts and details. They don’t truly reflect the person who has died – their…

How to Make Up for the Loss of Human Touch During the Coronavirus Pandemic

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My first grandchild was born in early 2020, right as the COVID-19 pandemic was gaining momentum. I got a social-distancing, several-feet-away peek at him early on, but then we were…

Creating Memorial Keepsakes from a Loved One’s Clothing

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When we lose a loved one, it’s often difficult to think about parting with their belongings. After all, objects hold memories, stories, and special meaning. While it’s important to sort…

10 Story Books on Grief for Children Ages 3-12

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There’s no denying that grief is taxing, difficult, and stressful, no matter your age. For children, grief can be particularly confusing because they haven’t emotionally and cognitively developed enough yet…

Grief & the Six Needs of Mourning

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When we lose someone we love, we experience a wide range of complex and sometimes confusing feelings. These may include sadness, fear, anger, guilt, relief, and shock or disbelief. All…

5 Tips for Helping a Person with Dementia Grieve

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If you are caring for a loved one with dementia, the grief journey for both of you will be a little more complicated. It may be that you’ve lost a…

8 Intriguing Funeral Customs from the Victorian Era

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Have you ever found yourself wondering where some of our funeral traditions come from? The Victorian Era (1837-1901) introduced some of our current funeral traditions as well as a few…

How Funerals Help Us Accept the Reality of Death

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Since the beginning of time, humanity has recognized the need to observe the death of a loved one through some form of funeral. While the tradition of the funeral has changed…

How Funerals Help Us Process the Pain We Feel

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While the depth of feeling varies from person to person, we can all agree that when someone we love dies, we feel many different emotions, like sadness, anger, relief, regret, among…

How Funerals Help Us Remember a Loved One

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While the form and tradition of the funeral has changed from culture to culture over the ages, the fact remains that every people group finds a way to remember and honor their dead. We still have…

How Funerals Help Us Step into a New Identity

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While the traditions surrounding the funeral have changed from culture to culture over the ages, the fact is that every culture finds a way to remember and honor their dead. Dr. Alan Wolfelt, a nationally recognized…

How Funerals Help Us Find Continued Meaning in Life

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Since the beginning of time, human beings have participated in funerals and found a way to remember and honor their dead. While the traditions look different from culture to culture, we always find evidence that family and friends were respected…

How Funerals Help Us Activate a Community of Support

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Since the beginning of time, humanity has participated in the funeral. While the way we conduct funerals has changed from culture to culture over the ages, the fact remains that…

Helping a Friend Grieving the Loss of a Pet

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In so many ways, pets are family, too. Because we have the ability to create such deep connections to the animals we love, their loss affects us deeply. The more…

10 Helpful Tips When Grieving a Loss

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Today, grieving can be difficult. Those who grieve often feel like they must “be strong” for others, whether it be family members, co-workers, or even strangers. We live in a…

10 Freedoms for Using Ceremony During the COVID-19 Pandemic

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If someone you love has died during the novel coronavirus pandemic, you have come to grief in an exceptionally challenging moment in history. You may have been separated from your…

6 Ways to Use Photos to Honor a Loved One

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With the current guidelines on social distancing, we must find ways of honoring and memorializing a loved one other than gathering together for a funeral or memorial service. Consider these…

6 Ideas for Holding Funeral Services While Practicing Social Distancing

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Over the past few weeks, we’ve seen how important funeral and memorial services are to the grieving. Funerals serve two very important functions. First, they honor the life of the…

Funerals in the Time of Coronavirus: Thoughts for Families

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Needless to say, the coronavirus pandemic of 2020 is a challenging time for everyone. But if someone you love has died, it is likely that the current social distancing orders…

Grieving a Coronavirus Death: Help for Special Circumstances

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If someone you love has died of the novel coronavirus, it is likely that you are facing a number of challenging circumstances. Grief is always difficult, but it is especially…

The COVID-19 Mourner’s Bill of Rights

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The pandemic has created unusually complicated death and grief circumstances for many people personally affected by COVID-19. If someone you love has died from the novel coronavirus, you have certain…

The Coronavirus Challenge: The Wonder of Waiting

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Have you noticed a number of people are saying some variation on, “I just can’t WAIT until these restrictions are lifted”? The trouble is, in our fast-paced, hurry-up culture, we’re…

Coronavirus and the Six Needs of Mourning

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Alongside the physical pandemic, the novel coronavirus is causing a pandemic of grief. That’s what we’re all feeling right now—grief. It’s important to recognize that. Grief is everything we think…

5 Tips for Grieving When You’re Isolated

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Grief is hard, no matter the circumstances. Losing someone we love to illness, accident, or even natural causes is one of the most emotionally taxing experiences in life. But imagine…

6 Ways to Focus on the Good During Tough Times

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With many communities facing shelter in place restrictions and social distancing requirements due to the COVID-19 outbreak, many of us are struggling with the loss of our freedom, independence, and…

Nurturing Hope in Difficult Times

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“Hope is the pillar that holds up the world.” — Pliny the Elder The caller to the Center for Loss asked a question that is on the hearts of many…

How to Make Digital Estate Planning Simple

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There’s no denying that the internet is here to stay. Twenty-five years ago, the internet was just a baby, but now, it’s a huge part of people’s lives. In fact,…

This Pandemic of Grief

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The coronavirus is not only causing a viral pandemic—it is giving rise to a pandemic of grief. As I write this, in mid-March 2020, we as a global community are…

How to Talk to Children About the Coronavirus Pandemic

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As the coronavirus spreads across North America and our daily lives are transformed, we all must be aware of the need for good mental-health care. Obviously, it’s a stressful time.…

Coronavirus Safety Tips: Taking Precautions When Attending a Funeral

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Recently, the United States officially declared the outbreak of the novel coronavirus (COVID-19) a national emergency. National, state, and local officials are hoping to slow the spread of the disease…

What to Do If You Can’t Attend the Funeral

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There are numerous factors that can lead you to miss an important event like a funeral. The outbreak of the novel coronavirus (COVID-19) is one factor that may be at…

The 6 Purposes of a Funeral

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No matter how far back you look in history, you will find evidence of funeral rituals. Within us, we have an innate need to honor, respect, and remember those who…

All You Need to Know About Funeral Programs, Prayer Cards, and More

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Whether you are planning ahead for funeral wishes or planning a final tribute for a loved one, you may have noticed that many funeral or memorial packages include memorial stationery.…

7 Funeral Rituals from Jesus’ Time that Still Exist Today

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As millions around the world celebrate Easter this weekend, marking the miraculous resurrection of Jesus Christ, it’s intriguing to look at the funeral rituals surrounding his death and the Jewish…

How to Plan a Healing Funeral if You Are Not Religious

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Funeral rites have a rich history rooted in spiritual and religious traditions. So, what do you do for a funeral if you are not religious? Some families may consider skipping…

6 Reasons to Write Your Will Now

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Perhaps unconsciously, we often think we have to own a lot of stuff or at least be in our 5th decade to write a will. This simply isn’t the case.…

10 Ways to Use Photos to Personalize a Service

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Funeral and memorial services are about remembering and cherishing a loved one’s memory and honoring their life. Dr. Alan Wolfelt, a nationally recognized grief expert, author, and counselor, often says,…

Estate Planning for the Blended Family

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In today’s world, it’s more and more common to be part of a blended family. For many families, being blended creates a sense of belonging and harmony. For others, it…

What to Do in the First 24 Hours Following a Death

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For many of us, we deal with death so infrequently that we aren’t sure what to do when we lose a family member or close friend. The first 24 hours…

What You Need to Know About Burial at Sea

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After a loss, we feel both a deep sense of loss and an innate desire to honor the memory of the person we love. We want to remember them for…

Permanent Placement Options for Cremated Remains

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These days, it’s not uncommon for the family to keep the cremated remains of a loved in an urn at home. While keeping a loved one nearby can be helpful…

Leaving a Legacy: Kobe Bryant

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"The most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great at whatever they want to do." – Kobe Bryant As we mourn Kobe Bryant’s unexpected passing, we cannot…

How to Talk to Children About the Death of a Pet

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Pets are a lovable, huggable, irreplaceable part of the family. This can be especially true for children, some of whom may not even remember a time when your pet wasn’t…

Healthy Practices for Your Later Years: 80s

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You now have eight decades under your belt, which means you have a lot of valuable life experience and many memories to cherish. Now that you’ve reached this milestone, it’s…

Supporting Grieving Friends on “Special” Days

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Grief takes its toll on us, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Then, “special” days like Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, holidays, and birthdays come around, emphasizing love and togetherness. If you have a…

5 Great Obituary Examples

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When looking at writing an obituary, it's important to know that there are 5 building blocks to a great obituary. They are: Announcing the death Providing general biographical information Making…

7 Tips for Helping a Grieving Friend

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When a friend is hurting, it’s hard to know what to do. We want to offer words of comfort and support, but we worry that we’ll say the wrong thing.…

Are Euphemisms About Death Helpful?

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None of us particularly like talking about death. It feels unpleasant, uncomfortable, and a bit too morose to think about on a regular basis. Because we find death an unpleasant…

Why Do We Feel the Loss of Pets so Deeply?

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“Our capacity to give and receive love is what ultimately defines us. Yet love inevitably leads to grief. You see, love and grief are two sides of the same precious…

The 5 Basic Steps of Funeral Planning

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Thinking about planning a funeral may make you feel anxious, especially if you are arranging a funeral for a loved one who has recently died. The whole thing just sets…

Balancing Grief and Joy During the Holidays

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No matter what time of the year it is, grief is hard. It involves so many emotions, like sadness, anger, guilt, or relief. The Christmas holiday adds its own complexity…

12 Activities to Help Ease Senior Holiday Grief

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Many seniors of the older generation spend the holidays alone, which often leads to holiday grief. Even the healthiest seniors must face the consequences of the passage of time, which…

7 Pet Memorial Options

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Losing a pet can be like losing a person. While that may sound strange to some, grief isn’t about a who or a what, it’s about a relationship. And if…

3 Reasons to Have a Visitation

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Have you ever wondered about the purpose of a visitation when a loved one dies? Why don't we just skip to the funeral? This article will share three key reasons…

Suicide Loss Survivors: Your Grief Matters

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No matter the type of loss, grief is hard. But in many ways, losing a loved one to suicide has its own added difficulties. You aren’t sure if you should…

The Core Elements of a Military Honors Funeral

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Our veterans represent courage, honor, and sacrifice. Throughout our history as a nation, our military men and women have stepped up to face the opposition, protect our way of life,…

Why Does Funeral Personalization Matter?

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“I encourage you to slow down, take a deep breath and focus on what is really important—what is essential—about the funeral you are planning. What is essential is the life…

How to Personalize a Funeral When an Infant Dies

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“Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.” – A.A. Milne Losing an infant or a small child is one of the most difficult situations to…

What Are My Interment Options?

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For many of us, the ins and outs of funeral planning are unfamiliar and confusing. We don’t know where to start or even what all of our options are. Should…

8 Ways to Honor a Loved One’s Life on Halloween

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It’s the Halloween season, and people all over are decorating their homes, buying candy, and making costumes. But for you, this year might be different. Grief may be taking a…

How to Support Someone Struggling with Mental Health

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So many of us know someone who is struggling with their mental health. It can strike fathers, mothers, siblings, grandparents, friends, classmates, and co-workers. And oftentimes, the struggle is hidden…

Understanding the Opioid Crisis and What You Can Do to Help

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So many families across the United States are affected by the grief, anger, and confusion over the death of a loved one by overdose. Every day, more than 130 people…

Healthy Practices for Your Later Years: 60s

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You’re in your 60s now, and if you’re intentional, it’s going to be an amazing decade for you. Now’s the time to reinvent your lifestyle and make decisions about what…

12 Tips for Coping with Survivor’s Guilt

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People who survive traumatic events are sometimes plagued with questions. Why did I survive, but my friend didn’t? Could I have done something to prevent this? The events repeat in…

Understanding Survivor’s Guilt

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In a world filled with events beyond our control, we try so hard to make sense out of the senseless. Cancer, car wrecks, wars, mass shootings, and natural disasters are…

7 Ways to Pay for Unexpected Funeral Expenses

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When a loved one dies, the last thing you want to do is think about how to pay for the funeral, especially if funds are tight and the death is…

Sleeping Tips for the Grieving

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“The best bridge between despair and hope is a good night’s sleep.”  - E. Joseph Cossman Sleep is essential for human beings. Without it, our minds and bodies quickly begin…

10 Family-Focused Pet Remembrance Ideas

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Pets have a special place in our hearts. When we lose one of our furry family members, every person in the family is affected, some more than others. As a…

Remembering Our Loved Ones Through Photos

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“When you photograph a face… you photograph the soul behind it.” – Jean-Luc Godard Today, we can’t imagine a world without photographs. They capture the moments of our lives –…

Do Animals Mourn?

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As human beings, mourning is hard-wired into our makeup. When we lose someone or something that we love or depended on, our natural reaction is to mourn that loss. But…

Creating Memorial Keepsakes with Funeral Flowers

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One way that extended family, friends, and co-workers show their love and support in times of loss is by sending flowers and condolences to the grieving family. By offering a…

How to Write a Great Obituary

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After the loss of a loved one, family members are often overwhelmed by all of the decisions that have to be made in the midst of their grief. One of…

6 Things You Probably Didn’t Know about Funeral Goods and Services

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Most of us will only plan a handful of funerals in our lifetime, and because it is so infrequent, we often don’t know what to do, how to do it,…

Walking a Child Through a Funeral: 9 Tips for Parents

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Most of us dearly love our children and want to protect them from the difficult parts of life. But understanding that a funeral is a rite of passage and an…

6 MORE Things You Should Never Say to a Grieving Person

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Sometimes – perhaps most of the time – we just don’t know what to say to our friends, family, children, or coworkers who are grieving. We want to offer words…

What Vital Statistics Should I Bring to a Funeral Arrangement Conference?

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When a loved one dies, the emotions of grief can hit hard. These feelings range from person to person and may include sadness, shock, anger, or anxiety. It is during…

12 of the Best Books on Grief

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“The most beautiful people are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have still found their way out of the depths. These people have an…

Remembering Our Founding Fathers: Benjamin Franklin

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“The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” – Benjamin Franklin (Photo: Portrait of Benjamin Franklin) The Fourth of July…

7 Key Topics to Discuss with Children Before a Funeral

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“The funeral, a ritual that has been with us since the beginning of time, is here to help us embrace the life that was lived and support each other as…

Remembering Our Founding Fathers: James Madison

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“The happy union of these states is a wonder; their constitution a miracle; their example the hope of liberty throughout the world.” – James Madison (Photo: Portrait of James Madison)…

Remembering Our Founding Fathers: John Jay

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“America belongs to ‘We the People.’”  – John Jay (Photo: John Jay in his chief justice robes) The Fourth of July marks a great and long-remembered day in American history.…

Simple Tips for Writing Funeral Thank You Notes

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At a time of loss, it may be very difficult to find the energy and willpower to write thank you notes. However, doing so is an important way of acknowledging…

Remembering Our Founding Fathers: Alexander Hamilton

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“Those who stand for nothing fall for anything.” -Alexander Hamilton (Photo: Portrait of Alexander Hamilton) The Fourth of July marks a great and long-remembered day in American history. It was…

Remembering Our Founding Fathers: Thomas Jefferson

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“Do you want to know who you are? Don't ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” – Thomas Jefferson (Photo: Statue of Jefferson at Jefferson Memorial in Washington, D.C.)…

Navigating the Emotions of Suicide or Overdose Loss

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It seems like it's all over the news. The opioid crisis is ravaging communities. Another celebrity dies of an overdose. Another teenager takes his own life. Grief is always hard…

Remembering Our Founding Fathers: John Adams

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“To be good, and to do good, is all we have to do.” – John Adams (Photo: Portrait of John Adams) The Fourth of July marks a great and long-remembered…

10 Reasons to Plan Ahead

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A funeral is an important event for those who have lost someone loved. It’s a time to gather together, to honor the memory of the one who has died, to…

Grief & Difficult Relationships

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If you’ve had to deal with a difficult relationship with a close friend or family member, you’re not alone. Many of us know the pain associated with tense relationships such as…

Remembering Our Founding Fathers: George Washington

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“I hope I shall possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most enviable of all titles, the character of an honest man.” – George Washington (Photo:…

Life Lessons Children Can Learn at Funerals

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Death and funerals are an inescapable part of life. It’s hard to know what to do when our children encounter death for the first time. As much as we would…

Honoring Our Fallen Heroes: Korean War Veterans Memorial

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“In steel and granite, water and earth, the creators of this memorial have brought to life the courage and sacrifice of those who served in all branches of the Armed…

10 Questions to Ask Before You Prepay Your Funeral

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A recent study by the Funeral and Memorial Information Council found that nearly 70% of adults over the age of 40 say they would prefer to prearrange their own funeral.…

How to Live a Meaningful Life

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We all want to make some sort of difference in the world. This desire seems built into the human spirit. In his landmark book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,…

Honoring Our Fallen Heroes: Vietnam Veterans Memorial

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“Our nation honors the courage, sacrifice and devotion to duty and country of its Vietnam veterans.” – Inscription on the Memorial Wall at the Vietnam Veterans Memorial Memorial Day is…

Honoring Our Fallen Heroes: The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier

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“Here rests in honored glory an American soldier known but to God.” – Inscription on the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier Memorial Day is a day set aside every year…

Survival Guide to Grieving Special Days

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We all have “special” days in our lives, and after the loss of someone we love, they are often particularly difficult. Birthdays. Holidays. Anniversaries. The first day you met. The…

Honoring Our Fallen Heroes: World War II Memorial

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“It is altogether fitting and proper that we gather this weekend and in this place to memorialize the people, places, and events that forever changed the course of history and…

5 Reasons Why People Don’t Plan Ahead for Funeral Wishes

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Life is full of to-do lists, errands, activities, hobbies, and gatherings. While many of these things bring us great joy, some of them simply need doing. While we may not…

How Creativity Can Help You Deal With Loss

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Your way back will happen very slowly. Almost like a whisper. You will be OK. Not the same. But OK. Not you. But still you. - Christina Rasmussen Sometimes talking about our grief isn’t…

Writing Your Will: How to Avoid Common Pitfalls

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This story is all too common. A parent dies without a legal will, and the adult children must face not only their grief, but the headache of moving the estate…

Cremation and the Importance of Ceremony

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Cremation is a rapidly growing trend in the United States, with just over 50% of those who died in 2016 selecting cremation for their final disposition. However, many families who…

Do Funerals Still Matter?

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We have had funerals since the beginning of time. No matter which culture you research, you will find evidence of funeral rites and traditions. Though the specific customs may have…

The Importance of a Memorial Tribute Video

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“The death of someone loved changes our lives forever. And the movement from the ‘before’ to the ‘after’ is almost always a long, painful journey. From my own experiences with loss…

10 Ways to Reinvent Valentine’s Day

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“The only cure for grief is action.” – George Henry Lewes Grief is hard every day, but it is especially hard on those days throughout the year that we think…

Should a Funeral Be Efficient or Effective?

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At some point in life, we’ve all attended a funeral or memorial service that seems to leave us feeling empty or numb. Why? Usually, it has to do with whether…

Exploring Your Release Ceremony Options

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Losing a loved one creates a painful hole in our hearts that we often don't know how to fill. However, through the process of grief and mourning, we can come…

A Year in Review: The Top 5 Books on Grief & Loss from 2018

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We mourn because we love. That’s true of us all. Grief is a universal emotion, and because it is, we can find hope and encouragement in the stories of others.…

7 Reasons to Help Parents Preplan for Funeral Wishes

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Life is busy, and many things demand your attention. In the midst of everything – daily chores, kids, work, friends, extracurricular activities – caring for an aging parent takes a…

The 5 Most Important Estate Planning Documents

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There’s no getting around the fact that estate planning is a necessary part of life, even though we may not feel ready to face it. It is especially important that…

5 Meaningful Actions to Personalize a Funeral

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Throughout history, many things have changed, but one thing that has endured is the funeral ceremony. At some level deep down, we all know that a funeral is important. It’s…

The Power of Meaningful Ceremony: Reflecting on George H.W. Bush’s Funeral

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“People who take the time and make the effort to create meaningful funeral arrangements when someone loved dies often end up making new arrangements in their own lives. They remember…

7 Tips for Coping with Traumatic Grief

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Grief, in its normal context, is already difficult to bear and elicits a variety of emotions. When you add in the element of trauma, everything becomes more complicated. When a…

The Value of Vigils

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Things happen in this world that break our hearts. In many cases, there’s nothing we personally could have done to prevent the events from occurring. Most recently, we've seen a…

10 Remembrance Activities for Your Holiday Season

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The holiday season is often particularly difficult for those who have recently lost someone or for those whose loss may not be recent but is still fresh and closely felt.…

Gratitude & Your Grief Journey

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During times of grief, we often turn our focus inward. While this tendency is natural, it may also lead to feelings of isolation and intense, singular focus on the loss…

9 Preplanning Mistakes to Avoid

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According to the National Funeral Directors Association, 62.5% of consumers feel that it is important to share funeral wishes with family members, but only 21.4% did so in 2017. That…

5 Benefits of a Grief Journal

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Grief is an inescapable part of life. For many, grief is associated with losing someone dearly loved. However, it is important to note that grief is not always associated with…

Grave Liners & Burial Vaults: What’s the Difference?

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For many of us, the ins and outs of funeral planning are unfamiliar and confusing. We don’t know where to start or even what all of our options are. Should…

The Unspoken Grief of Pregnancy and Infant Loss

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Pregnancy and infant loss is all around us. Mothers, fathers, and families the world over have felt the pain of losing a lovingly anticipated child. No matter how the child…

Writing a Letter to Say All the Things Left Unsaid

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When we lose someone we love – whether to an unexpected event or a prolonged illness – we don’t always get the chance to say the words we wish we…
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Suicide Prevention and Mental Health: What Can We Do to Help Our Nation’s Veterans?

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Suicide and mental health are a rising concern, and one of the nation's most vulnerable populations are our own veterans and military personnel. Veterans embody qualities such as bravery, sacrifice,…

Myth vs. Fact: The Truth About Final Expense Plans

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Paying for a funeral in advance doesn’t have to be a difficult task. All you really need is a knowledgeable funeral professional who thoughtfully educates you on all the options…

5 Ways to Pay for a Funeral

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Many people do not realize that payment for a funeral is due prior to services being rendered. So, having a financial plan in place to pay for a funeral is…

7 Ways to Keep Your Loved One’s Memory Alive

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Grief is not…a “two steps forward, one step backward” kind of journey; it is often one step forward, two steps in a circle, one step backward. It takes time, patience,…

Guilt, Anger, and Other Normal Reactions to Loss

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We experience a wide range of emotions when faced with the death of a loved one. And those emotions aren’t the same for everyone. Perhaps, if everyone grieved in the…

Nature & Your Grief Journey

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Grieving is not easy. In fact, it can be one of the most difficult but potentially strengthening journeys in life. But to become a stronger person on the other side…

Grief & Self-Care

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“The word ‘bereaved,’ which to our modern-day ears can sound like an old-fashioned term that only a funeral director might use, means ‘to be torn apart’ and ‘to have special…

Accepting the Caring Help of Others

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“Gracious acceptance is an art - an art which most never bother to cultivate. We think that we have to learn how to give, but we forget about accepting things,…

10 Caring and Creative Sympathy Gifts

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When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures,…

Selecting a Cremation Urn

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According to the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA), cremation has continued to grow as a choice for final disposition. In fact, in the 2017 Cremation and Burial Report, the NFDA…

Healthy Practices for Your Later Years: 70s

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Your 70s are here. Let’s make them great! While good habits benefit us throughout our lives, it’s never too late to make positive changes to your life. In addition to…

Give Yourself Permission to Grieve

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You give yourself permission to grieve by recognizing the need for grieving. Grieving is the natural way of working through the loss of a love. is not weakness nor absence…

6 Ways to Personalize a Funeral

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A funeral, though a time of mourning, can still be filled with celebration and remembrance. It’s a time to honor the one who has died but also an opportunity to…

5 Reasons to Establish a Permanent Memorial

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When we lose someone we love, our feeling of connection to them continues, even though they are no longer with us physically. It is this connection that contributes to our…

What To Do When Dad Dies

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First of all, you have our sincerest sympathies on the loss for your father. Dads are special people - irreplaceable and worth remembering. If your dad completed funeral prearrangement plans,…

What To Do When Mom Dies

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First of all, you have our sincerest sympathies on the loss for your mother. Moms are special people - irreplaceable and worth remembering. If your mom completed funeral prearrangement plans,…

7 Steps to Telling Your Children About Your Funeral Plans

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You’ve made an important decision. By preplanning your funeral, you are giving your family a great gift: an expression of your great love and the gift of a mind at…

6 Things Your Emergency Contacts Need to Know

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Why do we have emergency contacts? Ultimately, it’s because we will all need—at one point or another—a trustworthy person to represent us if we are incapable of doing so ourselves.…

8 Simple Tips for Writing a Meaningful Condolence Letter

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Words often fail us. We don’t know what to say, how to say it, or when to say it, but we know something must be said. And so, we try…

The Love Languages of Grief: Identifying and Asking for the Most Effective Grief Support for You

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When it comes to mourning and how others can best help us, there's no one right way. Every person and every loss is unique. The people we grieve the loss…

9 Funeral Costs That Are Often Overlooked

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Funeral costs can be a tricky thing to pin down if you are trying to plan ahead and protect your family by setting aside funds for a funeral in advance.…

11 Meaningful Ways to Honor Your Loved One’s Ashes

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If you are considering cremation, whether for yourself or for a loved one, it’s important to think about all the options available to you. As a term, "final disposition" refers…

The Healing Power of Ritual

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Throughout our lives, we participate in rituals. In some cases, we may not even know that we are taking part in a ritual. At weddings, we toss the bouquet. And…

7 Elements of a Healing and Meaningful Funeral

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The Elements of a Meaningful Funeral Service “People who take the time and make the effort to create meaningful funeral arrangements when someone loved dies often end up making new…

The Capacity to Love: The Reason We Grieve

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"Every time we make the decision to love someone, we open ourselves to great suffering, because those we most love cause us not only great joy, but also great pain.…

Love and Grief: Living as You Were Meant to Live

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"We are all mirrors unto one another. Look into me and you will find something or yourself as I will of you."  - Walter Rinder Love is a sacred partnership…

What to Expect at a Funeral Arrangement Conference

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None of us are ever truly prepared to lose someone we love. Whether the loss comes suddenly or has been long expected, you may experience a wide range of emotions:…

Funerals and Family Discord: What Can You Do?

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Funerals are always difficult. Emotions are closer to the surface. Add to that the struggles and intricacies associated with relationships. Dealing with either family discord or difficult people at an…
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Top 10 Characteristics to Look for in a Funeral Home

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For many of us, the death of a loved one is one of the most difficult life events we face. We don’t want to think about it, but there is…

The Truth About Life Insurance and Funeral Expenses

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It’s not uncommon for families to expect to pay for a funeral with life insurance benefits. Sounds like a simple plan, doesn’t it? The truth is, there can be many…

Top 12 Country Songs for a Celebration of Life Service

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“A good country music song takes a page out of somebody’s life and puts music to it.” – Conway Twitty According to well-known grief expert, counselor, and author Dr. Alan…

Grieving the “Firsts” After a Loss

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The first year without your loved one can be very difficult, especially as milestones approach. First Valentine’s Day. First birthday. Christmas. The anniversary of your loved one’s passing. Each of…

What is the Average Cost of a Funeral?

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Similar to a wedding, a funeral is a very significant event, commemorated by a gathering of family and friends and a ceremony, followed by a reception. The funeral fulfills a…

Quick Start Resource Guide: Planning a Funeral

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First of all, if you have recently lost a loved one, you have our sincerest sympathies. If your loved one completed funeral prearrangement plans, contact the funeral home they partnered…

Getting Your Affairs in Order

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Getting your documents organized can seem like a daunting task. Maybe you’ve considered organizing all the necessary documents and making all the right calls, but you just aren’t quite sure…
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12 Tips for Loving the Grieving During the Christmas Season

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It’s Christmas time. Twinkling lights are going up, parties are being planned, and cookies and treats galore are baking in ovens across the nation. But even as happy tidings are…
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A Christmas Playlist for the Grieving Heart

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The Christmas season can be especially difficult for those who are grieving. Many Christmas songs are lighthearted, happy, and discuss themes of romantic love, family, or joyfulness. But maybe you…

How Family Interviews Can Make Your Thanksgiving Memorable

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Thanksgiving is about reflection, remembrance, gratitude, and time spent with loved ones. Too often, we take our time on earth for granted, and before we are ready, a loved one…

Does the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) Pay for a Veteran’s Funeral?

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How much do you really know about Veterans' Burial Benefits? Do you know how much the VA will pay toward a veteran's funeral? Do you know which benefits you or…
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5 Unique Venues for a Celebration of Life Service

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“People who take the time and make the effort to create meaningful funeral arrangements when someone loved dies...emerge changed, more authentic and purposeful. The best funerals remind us how we…

Facing Traumatic Events: 5 Keys to Resilience After Loss

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Snowstorms leave families trapped. Tornadoes rip through homes. Wildfires ravage forests and towns. Floods continue to devastate cities. Hurricanes batter our shores. As traumatic events seem to strike at every…

5 Ways to Spread Awareness and Hope in the Fight Against Breast Cancer

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If you are currently battling breast cancer, if you know someone who is battling breast cancer, if you know and love a breast cancer survivor, or if you’ve lost a…

How to Write a Great Epitaph

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An epitaph is an inscription on a tomb, a gravestone, a plaque, or a memorial marker that honors the memory of a deceased person. The use of epitaphs can be traced…

6 Things You Should Never Say to a Grieving Person

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Words are powerful. They have the power to hurt or heal. But sometimes we say things that we think offer comfort, when in reality, they actually hurt the people we…

Natural Disasters & Hurricanes: How Grief Can Help Us to Help Others

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What does it mean to grieve during a natural disaster or a hurricane? What opportunities does grief provide for helping others in need? In the wake of natural disasters that…

Grief and Loss in the Wake of Hurricane Dorian

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Hurricane Dorian is lashing against the East Coast's shores, sure to cause life-threatening conditions, catastrophic flooding, and property damage. Hurricane Dorian is the first large hurricane of the season and…

9/11: Grief and Remembrance

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It’s been 19 years since the devastating terrorist attacks of 9/11. On September 11, 2001, two planes hit the World Trade Center in New York City and one plane crashed…

The Value of Ceremony: Caring for the Living and the Dead

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“Show me the manner in which a nation or a community cares for its dead. I will measure exactly the sympathies of its people, their respect for the laws of…

Grief at Work: Helping an Employee or Coworker After a Loss

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When we think of grief, we often think in terms of how it will affect us, our family members, or our closest friends. But grief hits everyone, and it undoubtedly…

Top 10 Poems for a Funeral Ceremony

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Readings are a great way to enrich a funeral ceremony. As Dr. Wolfelt tells us, readings are an important element of the service because they speak to “word people,” help…

Dealing with Grief in the Aftermath of Suicide

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The 21st century has seen a significant rise in suicide rates. Nearly 45,000 American lives are lost to suicide every year, making it the 10th leading cause of death in…

7 Popular Sympathy Flowers and Their Meanings

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Sympathy flowers are a great way to show support to a family that is grieving the loss of a loved one. As Dr. Alan Wolfelt tells us, symbols such as…

Top 10 Hymns for a Funeral Ceremony

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Music is an important element of a funeral ceremony because it helps us to process feelings that are difficult to put into words. As Dr. Alan Wolfelt tells us, music…

What is a Gathering?

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Also known as a post-funeral reception, the gathering is a final opportunity to experience community with others and to offer support before returning home. The gathering allows friends to strengthen…

“A Clear Midnight”

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"A Clear Midnight"   by Walt Whitman This is thy hour O Soul, thy free flight into the wordless, Away from books, away from art, the day erased, the lesson…

“Death, Be Not Proud”

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"Death, Be Not Proud" by John Donne Death, be not proud, though some have called thee Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so; For those whom thou think'st thou…

“The Road Not Taken”

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"The Road Not Taken" by Robert Frost Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked…

“Requiem”

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"Requiem" by Robert Louis Stevenson Under the wide and starry sky Dig the grave and let me lie: Glad did I live and gladly die, And I laid me down…

“If I Can Stop One Heart from Breaking”

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"If I Can Stop One Heart from Breaking" by Emily Dickinson If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain; If I can ease one…

“Success”

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"Success" By Bessie Anderson Smith* He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much; who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent…

Psalm 23

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Psalm 23 David, The Book of Psalms (KJV) The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside…

Honoring our Veterans on Independence Day

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This Fourth of July, many will gather for swim parties, burger grilling, and firework displays. We do these things because we want to reflect the American spirit on the day…

Grief and Professional Help: When to Consider Therapy

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Grief is normal. It hurts to lose someone dear to you, and it makes sense to acknowledge this pain. Everybody must go through a grieving process when losing a loved…

Technology and Your Grief Journey

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The technological developments of the 21st century have touched every aspect of lives, and the ways in which we deal with loss and cope with grief are transforming. The rise…

What Two Funerals for One Elderly Woman Can Teach Funeral Directors

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By Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Dr. Alan Wolfelt has long talked about the “whys” of funeral rituals, why they are important to families. His latest book addresses the “hows,” how…

How to Select a Casket

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If you decide on a traditional burial for you or your loved one, the next important decision that you will need to make is determining the type of casket. Before…

Dealing With Grief on Father’s Day

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Father’s Day is almost here, and if you have recently lost a father or child, Father’s Day can be a particularly painful day of the year. Fathers fill an irreplaceable…

Top 10 Songs for a Funeral Ceremony

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Music and Ceremony Music can be a powerful component of the funeral ceremony because it allows us to process our feelings in a very special way. Grief counselor and educator…

The Paradoxes of Mourning Part 3 of 3: Backtracking on the Route to Healing

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By Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt Paradox 3: Mourners must go backward before they can go forward. A paradox is a seemingly self-contradictory statement or situation that is in fact often…

Honoring our Fallen Soldiers on Memorial Day

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Memorial Day is just around the corner. You might use the holiday as an opportunity to grab a hot dog, plop down in a lawn chair, and settle in for…

Grief and Loss in the Digital Age

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Is There Room for Technology in the Funeral Profession? People often associate funeral homes with tradition, order, and family values. When they think of technology, they think innovation, variety, and…

The Paradoxes of Mourning Part 2 of 3: The Dark Night of the Soul

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By Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Paradox 2: Mourners must make friends with the darkness before they can enter the light. A paradox is a seemingly self-contradictory statement or situation that…

The Paradoxes of Mourning Part 1 of 3: Creating Hello Opportunities

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By Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt Paradox 1: Families must say hello before they can say goodbye A paradox is a seemingly self-contradictory statement or situation that is in fact often…

Crafting a Eulogy

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What is a Eulogy? A eulogy is a speech given at a funeral that celebrates the life of a loved one. It comes from the Greek word eulogia, which means…

How Poetry Can Help You on Your Grief Journey

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Did you know that poetry can play an important role in the grieving process? Sadly, poetry readings are becoming less and less popular in everyday life, but they are still…

Finding Meaning in St. Patrick’s Day

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The Rituals You know the drill. On March 17th, you’ll put on our greenest attire in honor of St. Patty's Day, maybe catch a parade, and celebrate the luck of…

Mourning at the Movies: Manchester by the Sea and the Academy Awards

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It’s Oscar time again. On Sunday, February 26, all of the glitter and glamour and pomp and splendor will be on full display. This year, one of the leading films…

Funeral Etiquette Infographic

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This infographic shares basic funeral etiquette guidelines for attending a funeral and supporting a friend after a loss.

Why Plan Ahead Infographic

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This infographic shares important information and statistics on planning ahead for funeral wishes.

Coping with Grief on Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day can be a beautiful opportunity to celebrate your relationships, whether your loved ones are here with you or whether they have been gone for some time. For those…

How Do Actions Help Us Heal?

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https://youtu.be/ipTOzgAzmXI In this video, Dr. Wolfelt examines some of the actions that help make a ceremony more special and meaningful. Elements of action bring meaning to the people involved in…

The Importance of Symbols

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https://youtu.be/sDlrNU6rKW4 In this video, Dr. Wolfelt talks about the value of symbols during a time of loss. Symbols Convey Love When words are inadequate, we often use symbols that express…

How do Readings Enhance the Funeral Experience?

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https://youtu.be/du6v2Y3wSkM In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the purpose of readings in a funeral setting. Group readings contribute to the service in meaningful ways: Speak to “Word People” A good…

What is the Hierarchy of Needs After Losing a Loved One?

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https://youtu.be/efv8QYwNGiY Dr. Wolfelt has spent decades studying across cultures and age groups to discover the universal purposes that funerals serve. He has concluded that the funeral serves six functions, and…

What is the Difference Between Grief and Mourning?

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https://youtu.be/1V8i2ErSfZk In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the difference between grief and mourning, two terms often conflated. Grief is Internal While they are often used interchangeably, the words grief and…

The 6 Needs of Mourning

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https://youtu.be/RLM9-v80kpA In this video, Dr. Wolfelt explains the six “yield signs,” or needs that a person has when a loved one dies. Funerals are rites of initiation that help people…

The Paradoxes of Mourning

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https://youtu.be/6vzKpccesg8 In this video, Dr. Wolfelt provides three different lenses through which we can view the process of grief and the movement from pain to acceptance. Hello Before Goodbye Throughout…

Why Should the Body Be Present?

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https://youtu.be/tHQPj-bl5AY In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the importance of the body and shows how having the "guest of honor" present contributes to a healthy and healing funeral service. Acknowledging…

Why Include Special Music in a Funeral Ceremony?

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https://youtu.be/mtnumSLYzo0 In this video, Dr. Wolfelt talks about the role that music plays in allowing you to process your feelings about a loved one’s passing. The Inadequacy of Words Music…

What is a Eulogy?

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https://www.youtube.com/embed/iXAL_5hOTTw In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses how the eulogy allow us to process grief in a healthy and meaningful way: Recalls the Life The eulogy is a period of…

What is the Difference Between a Celebration of Life and a Party?

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https://youtu.be/3G8f5lX9MFE In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the important role that grief plays in the funeral ceremony. Celebrating a Life Our culture encourages us to avoid sad or painful feelings.…

Will a Funeral Bring Closure?

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https://youtu.be/6Xj1aV7jJJY In this video, Dr. Wolfelt dispels the popular notion that a funeral is an opportunity for closure. A Rite of Initiation In recent years, there has been a tendency…

What is the Purpose of a Funeral Procession?

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https://youtu.be/KhTSBN2Apv8?rel=0 In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the important function of the funeral procession and the impact that it has on the family and the broader community. Honoring the Loved…

What Are the Elements of a Meaningful Funeral?

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https://youtu.be/eQxJlLdld3E In this video, Dr. Wolfelt discusses the heart graphic that he created as a tool to outline the elements of the funeral. The Hierarchy To convey the value of…

Why Have a Visitation?

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https://youtu.be/H51f2bBLsnM Having a visitation or viewing prior to the funeral ceremony can be of great value to a bereaved family. In this video, Dr. Wolfelt shows the history of visitations…

Grieving During the Holiday Season

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The absence of a loved one during the holidays can bring extremely painful feelings to the surface. Just as you’ve found your groove in a “new normal,” the holidays come…

Why Do We Have Funerals?

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Dr. Wolfelt explains why we have had funerals since the beginning of time and the role that the funeral plays in a grieving person's healing journey. Dr. Wolfelt shares the…

What You Need to Know About Veterans’ Burial Benefits

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Many veterans and their families are uninformed about the burial benefits they can expect to receive at the time of death. Some veterans assume that Veterans Affairs (VA) will pay…