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Dec 10

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Avoid These 6 Estate Planning Misconceptions

By christy.kessler Educational, Estate Planning

A 2025 survey found that only 31% of Americans have a legal will and 55% of Americans have no estate plan at all. These figures tell us that most American families are unprotected and unprepared regarding legal matters should an unexpected death occur in the family.

You may be asking, “But what is an estate plan?” An estate plan refers to many documents, including but not limited to a legal will, a living will, a financial or healthcare power of attorney, and a trust. A combination of these documents will make up a person’s estate plan.

So, why aren’t Americans completing an estate plan? Let’s talk through 6 misconceptions around estate planning that lead many families to de-prioritize the planning process and create unintentional confusion and headaches for surviving family members.

Reason #1: “An estate plan is only for senior adults”

In many ways, estate planning has become associated with advanced age. Because senior adults (65+) have lived longer, worked longer, and often accumulated more wealth, the general thought is that they are more likely to need an estate plan.

However, a 20-something who’s just starting out has just as much need for estate planning documents as an 80-year-old at an assisted living facility. Why? Because both people have assets, possessions, and online accounts tied to their names.

Without a clear estate plan, both the family of the 20-year-old and the 80-year-old will have difficulty untangling an estate. In some ways, the 20-year-old’s estate may be harder. After all, the 80-year-old may have verbally conveyed some wishes while the 20-year-old probably never considered it. So, regardless of age, it’s always a good idea to have a plan for your estate.

Reason #2: “An estate plan is only for the wealthy”

Next, you may think that estate planning is only for the wealthy. While the wealthy do have more assets and properties to distribute, estate planning is not dependent on having a specific amount of wealth. In many ways, estate planning is about more than money.

It’s about the family heirlooms, the sock drawer money, the paid-off car, and the house you’ve lived in for years. Whether you have $100 to your name or $1 million, your family needs direction and guidance to understand your wishes and ensure that the right people inherit and receive what you want them to receive.

Reason #3: “Estate planning will be too expensive”

The cost of estate planning ultimately rests in your hands. While there are expensive options out there, you can choose an estate planning route that comes with minimal cost.

For those who have a complicated estate, it may be worthwhile to get in contact with an estate planning attorney who can help you walk through all the details. However, for those with uncomplicated, straightforward estates, you can complete basic estate planning documents for a nominal fee.

And if you prefer to work directly with an estate planning attorney no matter what, you can call around until you find a firm or attorney that fits into your budget and meets your needs.

Reason #4: “I have plenty of time”

Most of us don’t spend much time actively thinking about our mortality. It’s something we tend to avoid thinking about, which is why so many people assume they have plenty of time to complete an estate plan.

But the fact is that none of us know the length of our days. More than likely, all of us can name someone who died much too early or quite unexpectedly. Rather than leave things to chance, take charge and make decisions today.

By outlining your estate planning wishes now, not only will you have peace of mind that everyone you love is taken care of, but the people you love can experience incredible assurance that you’ve considered everything and made plans for the future.

Reason #5: “I don’t need an estate plan”

For some, you may think you don’t need an estate plan. Maybe you live paycheck to paycheck or you’ve never been able to buy a home or invest in anything. You’re not alone! According to a report put out by PNC Bank, around 67% of workers are living paycheck to paycheck.

While your financial situation may make it seem like you don’t need an estate plan, that’s not the case. Even if your financial assets are minimal, there are still many end-of-life concerns that need your input.

Let’s discuss a few examples. A legal will allows you to designate a guardian for any minor children or pets. A living will encourages you to outline your wishes regarding life-saving medical care. A power of attorney gives your chosen representative the ability to make decisions if you become incapacitated, including paying your bills, making medical decisions, and accessing your online accounts.

Whether you have monetary assets or not, you do have many reasons to complete an estate plan and ensure your wishes are known.

Reason #6: “I’ve never thought about it”

And lastly, it could be that you just haven’t thought about estate planning at all. It could be because you don’t feel you qualify, but it could also simply be not knowing. In life, we don’t know what we don’t know.

So, consider this your public service announcement: An estate plan matters, and by putting one together (no matter your financial situation), you will make closing your estate and distributing your assets and heirlooms much easier on your family during a time of grief.

So, What’s Next?

Now that you understand why estate planning matters and that it applies to you, how do you get started?

Download our free estate planning checklist (download here)
Make an appointment with an estate planning attorney
Look into community and online resources

11 Reasons Why You Should Start Estate Planning Now

By christy.kessler Educational, Estate Planning

Far too often, estate planning stays at the bottom of the to-do pile, and because of that, surviving family members are left with an estate to untangle and questions to answer. For some families, the lack of an estate plan can lead to years of court appearances and loss of money. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Today, let’s talk about 11 reasons why estate planning is useful and why you shouldn’t put it off.

11 Reasons Why You Should Start Estate Planning Now

First, let’s define “estate plan.” An estate plan is the process of anticipating and managing financial, medical, and guardianship issues that will arise after your death or if you become incapacitated. Think of estate planning as a road map for your family, giving them a clear vision of how to care for your health, possessions, assets, children, pets, and more.

The most common estate planning documents to consider are the financial power of attorney, medical power of attorney, living will, legal will, revocable living trust, and funeral plan.

Not every reason on this list will apply to you, but if even one reason connects to your life, then it may be time to put together an estate plan.

1. Protect Your Minor Children

If you have children under 18, an estate plan can be essential for their care if something should happen to you. By completing certain documents, you can designate a guardian and set aside an inheritance for your children’s future. Without a plan in place, children may go through foster care or experience a period of instability on the way to a permanent home. By completing a few documents, especially a legal will, you can provide for your children if anything unexpected occurs.

2. Outline Future Care for Pets

Pets are family members, too, and to guarantee their well-being after your passing, you can include them in your legal documents. When a pet’s care is left unaddressed, it’s possible that they may be dropped off at a shelter or humane society rather than taken in by a loving family. To protect your pet’s future, consider taking steps to ensure that they go to a happy and healthy home should anything happen to you. To learn more, read Protect Your Pet: 4 Steps to Create an Estate Plan for Your Pet.

3. Minimize or Prevent Family Disagreements

All of us know that money can make people a little bit crazy. Sometimes it’s easy to tell who will cause problems, and other times, it’s not. By putting together an estate plan, you can significantly minimize or completely prevent any squabbles amongst your surviving loved ones. An estate plan will clearly outline your wishes regarding who gets what, when they get it, who’s in charge, and more. And because the documents are legally binding, any difficult people will have to go along with it.

4. Specify How Your Assets Should Be Distributed

You might say, “I don’t have a lot of money. Why do I need a will?” The word “assets” refers to much more than just money. It’s your car, your house, your accounts, and your cherished heirlooms, to name a few. All of these items belong to you, and you should be the one deciding what happens to them after you’re gone. If you don’t have an estate plan, it’s often up to state law to determine what happens, and your family may or may not benefit. By completing a few documents now, you can ensure everything goes to the right people.

5. Avoid Probate Court and Preserve Privacy

For some families, a revocable trust may be an excellent option because it allows you to skip the costly and time-consuming probate court process. At probate court, the legal will is authenticated, and a plan is set to pay bills and taxes before distributing to the rightful heirs. Depending on your state, it can be a complicated process, especially if someone decides to oppose the will. However, with a trust, you can completely avoid probate court and appoint your own executor, who will take care of everything privately and out of the public eye.

6. Choose a Trusted Estate Executor

An executor is the person who carries out the desires and directives you’ve written in a legal will. You can designate someone you trust as executor, but if you don’t have a legal will, everything will fall to the state. The state-appointed executor will then decide what to do with your assets and property. While they will follow state law, the end results may not benefit your family. However, by completing an estate plan and choosing an executor, you can avoid this unnecessary complication.

7. Manage or Minimize Estate Tax Issues

Another reason to set up an estate plan is to manage or minimize taxes associated with state/federal estate tax laws or inheritance laws. Without a plan, these taxes could significantly affect what’s left for your heirs. However, you can reduce the tax on your overall estate when your estate plan is properly structured. It’s best to speak with an estate planning attorney to discuss the right options for your particular estate. With their help, you may be able to legally avoid expensive taxes that can negatively impact your estate.

8. Document your Medical Care Wishes

Not to be confused with a legal will, the living will is a document that outlines your medical care wishes should you become incapacitated. In this document, you provide guidance on which medical procedures you are okay with and which you aren’t. For example, some people may include DNR (do not resuscitate) orders in their living will. The biggest benefit to completing a living will is that you provide family members and doctors with a comprehensive understanding of your wishes so they can make decisions appropriately.

9. Avoid a Guardianship Appointment

A power of attorney (POA) allows a designated representative to legally act on your behalf. This means that they can make financial or medical decisions, pay bills, and sell property, to name a few. However, if you become incapacitated and don’t have a POA, it’s possible that no one (including your spouse) will be able to act for you. In this event, the court must appoint a guardian for you, which can be an expensive and lengthy process. However, with a POA in place, your loved ones can make decisions on your behalf with ease.

10. Arrange for Charitable Gifts

If you’d like to support an organization or charity by leaving a charitable gift (or bequest), then you’ll want to use your estate plan to set everything up. There are ways to designate certain finances to go to a specific organization, and when properly structured, you can do so without losing much to taxes. If you plan to give a large amount or would like to create a new scholarship fund at an institution, reach out to the organization itself first. Their knowledgeable staff will help you navigate all the steps.

11. Give Everyone Peace of Mind

And last but certainly not least, completing an estate plan will give you – and your survivors – peace of mind. Creating an estate plan takes time and can be a bit stressful. Imagine having to do everything after a loved one has already passed away and can no longer answer questions or give opinions. It’s one more stress added to an already difficult time of loss. Instead, by putting in the work now, you can give everyone peace of mind and remove a future burden from your loved ones’ shoulders.

Why Is It Important to Plan Now?

In short, the most compelling reason why you should start putting your estate plan together now is that none of us know the length of our days. For many of us, it will be decades before there’s even a hint of a health problem. But for some, an accident or a diagnosis can come without warning and much too early.

Because the future is unknown, take the time now to protect your children, your pets, and your assets. Without your forethought, there’s no telling what may happen after you’re gone. It’s never too early to put together an estate plan, but it can be too late.

To begin preparing a comprehensive estate plan, make an appointment with a local estate planning attorney or look online for resources in your area. While it will take time to put everything together, your family will be so grateful in the end.

Additional Estate Planning Resources

DISCLAIMER: Individual circumstances and state laws vary, so any estate planning should only be undertaken with the help and assistance of an attorney licensed in your state.

Oct 22

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20 Ideas for Personalizing a Veteran’s Final Tribute

By christy.kessler Educational, Meaningful Funerals, Personalization, Veterans

Honoring a veteran’s life and service goes beyond commemorating their time in the military; it’s about acknowledging their personal sacrifices, valor, and the unique stories that shaped their lives. From their active-duty service days to their veteran years and family memories, a veteran’s life is made up of many different facets. Today, let’s talk about 20 ideas for how you can personalize a beloved veteran’s funeral. These will help you honor and celebrate their military service in a way that is tailored to their one-of-a-kind story.

20 Ideas for Personalizing a Veteran’s Final Tribute

1. Request military honors

One of the most recognized options for honoring a veteran is military honors. This ceremonial option commonly includes the folding and presentation of the flag, playing Taps, and a salute from uniformed personnel. It may also include other elements, but the details can be worked out with a funeral director.

2. Invite guests to attend in uniform

If you expect any current or former service members to attend the final tribute, invite them to wear their uniform. This simple act will be a visual reminder to everyone that your loved one proudly served in the Armed Forces.

3. Choose a venue with significance

If you’d like, you can highlight a veteran’s service by choosing a venue with military significance. For example, have the service in an old USO building or contact the local VFW or American Legion Post to see if they can host. Or, if you choose burial at a national cemetery, you could ask for additional military honors, such as uniformed pallbearers.

4. Incorporate personal keepsakes & memorabilia

Every veteran will have special items and keepsakes associated with their time in military service. You could display awards, medals, challenge coins, patches, or ribbons in a shadow box. Create a uniform display on a table or use a dressmaker’s mannequin. Or you could put together a memory table where photos and keepsakes are shown.

5. Prepare a personalized event program

It’s common practice to create a personalized event program, where the songs, speakers, and other events are clearly outlined for attendees. For a veteran, you could use a patriotic color theme, include photos, and list their rank, awards, and deployments. For the design, you can also add insignia, logos, or the American flag or eagle.

6. Ask fellow veterans to speak during the eulogy

If your veteran was still in touch with old buddies or was involved at the local VFW or American Legion, you could ask fellow veteran friends to speak at the eulogy. With their own history in military service, they may add a unique perspective and highlight your loved one’s time in the miliary.

7. Create a video montage of the veteran’s life

While a video tribute should include every aspect of a person’s life, you can add specific details to commemorate their time in the service. Include photos of the person in uniform or volunteering with local veteran organizations. If available, you could also include video footage of graduations, promotion ceremonies, and other significant military milestones.

8. Decorate with patriotic colors or floral arrangements

Personalization has become the new norm, which means you can decorate the funeral venue with a theme, if you wish. For a veteran, you could use red, white, and blue as the signature colors during the service. Alternatively, you could invite guests to wear these colors or place patriotic floral arrangements in prominent places throughout the venue.

9. Select customized funeral merchandise

The funeral home will offer many types of merchandise, from caskets and urns to guestbooks and memorial jewelry. If you’d like, you can choose items that align with a military theme. For example, select a guestbook or an urn inscribed with the American flag or other military imagery.

10. Design a personalized monument

If you’ve decided to honor a veteran with burial or inurnment at a local cemetery, you can work with a local monument company to design a personalized grave marker. As part of the design, you could include a military medallion, a photo, or the insignia for the veteran’s service branch or unit.

11. Give guests a remembrance token or keepsake

At some funerals, guests are invited to take home a remembrance token or a keepsake. For a veteran, you could design a custom patch or challenge coin. Alternatively, you could create a bookmark with their photo in uniform or give away miniature American flags or pins. There are many options to choose from!

12. Add a timeline of the veteran’s life

Many military families move around, so it’s possible that a veteran has lived in many unique places. To highlight those cities and/or countries, you could add a timeline of the veteran’s life or display a map with pins added for each place they lived. Another option is creating collages or shadow boxes for each location with photos and mementos.

13. Encourage donations to support veteran organizations

For families who prefer not to receive flowers, you could instead encourage guests to give memorial donations to organizations that aid veterans and their families. You could look into local non-profits or direct people to national options, like Wreaths Across America or the Wounded Warrior Project.

14. Play ceremonial and patriotic music

In addition to national songs like “America the Beautiful” and the “Star-Spangled Banner,” every service branch has their own anthem, hymns, and related melodies. For example, the U.S. Navy is closely tied to the famous march “Anchors Aweigh” and the hymn “Eternal Father, Strong to Save.” With a quick online search, you can find the songs most beloved by your veteran’s service branch.

15. Sing patriotic songs together

Hearing many voices raised in song can be a powerful experience. To encourage participation and honor a veteran’s military service, you can invite guests to sing the “Star-Spangled Banner” together. Or you can select another patriotic song that may have special significance to the family or to the person who has died.

16. Arrange for a military band to perform

Another musical option is to arrange for a military band to perform during the service. You could request that they play ceremonial marches, Taps, Amazing Grace, a particular branch’s anthem, or you could leave it up to the band to choose. And if an official military band is not available, perhaps a local one would be willing to step in to perform.

17. Invite comrades-in-arms to participate

If the veteran was in touch with former comrades-in-arms, consider giving them time to share memories and express their respect. By including comrades’ stories, you not only highlight the veteran’s service, but you also create an incredibly moving moment and reinforce the power and camaraderie of bonds formed during service.

18. Read a history of the service branch

For those who are less familiar with the service branches, you could incorporate a short history of the veteran’s chosen branch. You could add the history to the printed program or include a reading on the subject. This practice could be a great way to help others appreciate the history and respect associated with the veteran’s service and dedication.

19. Include patriotic readings

Finally, you could include meaningful poems or quotes that will add an emotional and reflective element to the program. A few popular options to consider are:

“Bivouac of the Dead” by Theodore O’Hara
“The Ultimate Sacrifice” by Kelly Roper
“A Nation’s Strength” by Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Star-Spangled Banner” by Francis Scott Key

20. Customize the funeral procession

If escorting a veteran to their final resting place is planned, you could add a few unique elements to the funeral procession. Provide each car with a small American flag that will rest in a rolled-up window and wave during the drive. Add patriotic streamers to the funeral hearse or ask people to listen to a provided playlist on the drive to the cemetery.

As you can see, there are so many ways to personalize a veteran’s final tribute that pay homage to their commitment and dedication during their time of military service. And if you want to brainstorm other ideas, your funeral director can help!

Don’t Forget to Take Advantage of VA Veteran Burial Benefits

As you plan a beloved veteran’s final goodbye, don’t forget to request all the burial benefits they are eligible to receive. Depending on eligibility, the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs may provide burial allowances, a government-issued headstone or grave marker, burial in a national cemetery, and more. Talk with a funeral director or visit www.va.gov/burials-memorials to look into the details. Additionally, you can browse the resources below for more information.

Oct 15

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5 Ways Gratitude Builds Resilience After Loss

By christy.kessler Educational, Grief/Loss

Love brings great joy into our lives, and because of how deeply we love, it can also bring our greatest sadness. After losing a loved one, you may feel lost, adrift, and unsure how to face the future. Thankfully, there are real, practical habits you can use to help you heal. One of those habits is participating in daily gratitude. Research shows that gratitude can help you build resilience, and resilience after loss is essential to moving forward in a healthy and beneficial way.

What is Resilience?

Resilience is your ability to adapt to a stressful situation. Being resilient doesn’t mean you don’t experience pain; it means that you can adapt and cope with the ups and downs of life. Many psychologists believe resilience is comprised of several qualities, including honesty, humility, optimism, empathy, and patience. Each of these traits can help you combat stress, cope with adversity, and bounce back stronger.

How Does Gratitude Build Resilience?

Research shows that gratitude bolsters our emotional resilience by motivating us to focus on the positive things in life. By intentionally looking at the good things, many people find it easier to balance the difficult things. Grief can make you turn inward, and expressing gratitude forces you to get out of your head and focus on the positive happening around you.

Here are 5 ways gratitude builds resilience:

1. Encourages Positive Reframing

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Practicing gratitude is not about minimizing or ignoring the grief you feel. Instead, it’s about reframing your perspective. By taking time each day to identify something positive, you broaden your point of view. Yes, grief is hard, but good still exists. You have lost someone you love, which is devastating and life-altering, but what good things still exist to anchor you? Think about your family, your pets, your friends, your passions, your hobbies, or your volunteer projects. By taking the bad with the good, you can reframe your perspective and build your resilience.

2. Reduces Stress and Anxiety

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Grief can bring every kind of emotion – sadness, anger, regret, and even guilt. Each person experiences a loss differently, and sometimes, it can feel very negative. Naturally, difficult emotions aren’t easy, and they may spark feelings of stress and anxiety. But practicing gratitude can help! By taking time to appreciate the good things in your life, you can redirect your thoughts and create a greater sense of peace and calm. And of course, this more relaxed mindset will lead to less stress and anxiety.

3. Improves Mental Health

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Research shows that giving or receiving gratitude releases dopamine and serotonin, both of which are considered the brain’s “feel-good” chemicals. These positive feelings decrease stress, depression, and anxiety while increasing happiness, calm, and contentment. By practicing gratitude daily, you can strengthen your resilience and positively impact your mental health.

4. Promotes Physical Health

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For some people, grief brings negative thoughts and emotional turmoil, which, in turn, can affect sleep. By improving your mental health through practicing gratitude, you can improve your sleep. Plus, grateful people are more likely to engage in other positive behaviors, such as regular exercise, eating well, and attending regular medical check-ups. All of these elements come together to create higher resilience and a better you.

5. Enhances Social Connections

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Everyone needs to feel appreciated and seen. By spending time with friends and family and telling them what you appreciate about them, you create an extensive support network. While having people by your side is important in the happy times, it can be even more valuable in the difficult times. When you create positive relationships around you, people tend to reciprocate, creating a cycle of kindness and support. This support is essential to building resilience because you aren’t meant to do life alone. You need loving, supportive people around you.

How Do I Create a Gratitude Habit?

There are so many ways to implement consistent gratitude practices into your life. You can choose what best fits your personality and needs. It doesn’t have to be time-consuming or complicated. It simply needs to be effective, so try out a few ideas to see what works best for you.

Start a Gratitude Journal: With just a few minutes a day, you can start expressing gratitude. Write down three things you’re grateful for and make sure to write something different each day.
Write Gratitude Letters: If there are particular people you’d like to thank, sit down and write them a letter expressing your appreciation. This small act will boost your mood and make the recipient feel valued.
Use an App: There are a lot of great phone apps out there to encourage daily gratitude. Find one that looks good to you and get started right away!
Practice Mindful Gratitude: When you start to feel overwhelmed, take a moment to pause and take a deep breath. Focus on something or someone you’re grateful for. This practice will help you calm your thoughts and bring you back to the present.
Add Gratitude to Your Conversations: Another option is to intentionally add gratitude to your conversations with other people. Whether it’s a family member, coworker, or even a total stranger, telling someone you’re grateful for even the smallest act can strengthen relationships and spread positivity.
Take Gratitude Walks: Being out in nature has a calming and clarifying effect. A few times a week (or more often, if you prefer), go outside to enjoy the sky, the season, and the life around you. As you go, make note of the things you’re grateful for.

Don’t Forget to Pay Attention to Your Own Needs

The more you practice gratitude, the easier it will become. Think about what makes you happy. What nice thing have you done for someone today? And what nice thing has someone done for you? As you cultivate an attitude of gratitude, your resilience will increase. While the difficult will still be difficult, you will have the ability to counteract it with the positive. And that is the definition of resilience.

If you continue to struggle with loss, depression, guilt, heartbreak, or another consuming emotion, don’t be discouraged. Consider speaking with a grief counselor or a mental health professional. While practicing gratitude is incredibly impactful, you may need to pair it with other coping mechanisms. Pay attention to yourself and your needs. Get additional help. In time, your resilience will grow, and your grief will become less sharp. You will always miss the person you’ve lost, but it is possible to see your life transform into something different that’s still good.

Sep 19

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What to Do if a Death Occurs Out of Town

By Becca Corbett Educational

In life, we prepare for so many things. We save for vacation, purchase insurance to protect our homes and cars, and go to annual preventative medical exams. But despite all our best efforts, the unexpected can happen, including death away from home. The question is, is your family prepared? Do you and your family know what to do if death occurs away from home? Let’s explore practical steps to guide you through the process of what to do when death occurs out of town.

Step 1: Notify the Necessary People

When someone passes away, the first thing you will need to do is notify the necessary people. With a sudden death, you may need to call the local authorities to let them know a death has occurred. First responders will come to confirm the death, secure the area, and ensure that proper protocols are followed.

Next, depending on the location of the death, you may need to contact two funeral homes: one in the area where the death took place and one back home. If you know that your loved one preplanned their funeral wishes with a specific funeral home, notify them directly. Some funeral homes are willing to travel within a certain radius of their facility. These may be able to send a staff member to collect your loved one and transport them back to the funeral home.

The last calls you need to make are to any next of kin or friends. Don’t feel like you need to call everyone by yourself. Oftentimes, you can ask a few trusted people to help you spread the news, which will remove an emotional task from your shoulders and allow you to focus on other responsibilities.

Step 2: Get a Death Certificate

After you have notified all the necessary people, you will need to address legal matters, such as obtaining a death certificate. Any time someone passes away, a death certificate must be issued by the responsible government office within a certain number of days.

Why would you need a death certificate? To complete funeral plans and close out an estate, you need legal proof that a loved one has died. This is where a death certificate becomes necessary. The death certificate allows you to close accounts, claim benefits, request burial or cremation, and address other legal matters. Also, a death certificate is required to arrange for transportation of the body back home.

However, there are different protocols for applying for a death certificate, depending on the state or country in which the death occurred.

State

Most of the time, the funeral home will assist you in the process of requesting and receiving a death certificate. Some states require embalming for transportation, may charge fees, or could have other regulations in place. Your funeral home will be the best resource for state practices.

Abroad

If a death occurs while you are abroad, the process for obtaining a death certificate could be quite different from the procedures in the U.S., depending on the country. You should notify the U.S. Embassy or consulate in that country, and they can assist you in obtaining the death certificate.

For a full list of embassies around the world and their contact numbers, please visit www.usembassy.gov. Also, for helpful tips from the U.S. State Department on what to do when death occurs abroad, click here.

Step 3: Choose a Disposition

While it may sound odd, choosing a disposition will guide you in making funeral decisions when death occurs away from home. For example, if you choose burial, there will be different transportation requirements than if you select cremation.

Whether you choose burial or cremation, speak with your family members back home and take their thoughts into account. Some people need to physically see that special person one more time, which means burial would be preferred to cremation. On the other hand, cremation may be the disposition type all decision-making survivors agree on. Or you could do a hybrid where the body is transported back home before cremation takes place.

Regardless of which disposition is chosen, any decision will affect how you go about arranging a loved one’s transportation back home. And by consulting family members, you take their emotional needs into account throughout the planning process. Making funeral decisions while away from home is already difficult enough without adding hurt feelings to the mix.

Step 4: Apply for a Burial Transit Permit

After applying for a death certificate and choosing a disposition, the next step is to request a burial transit permit. A burial transit permit, also known as a removal permit or disposition permit, is a legal document required for handling human remains. This document ensures that the remains are handled properly and follow the guidelines set by the state or country.

Like with a death certificate, the protocols may differ depending on where the death occurs. For example, if the death occurred across state lines, the body may need to be embalmed before crossing state lines. No matter what transportation method you choose, you’ll need to obtain a burial transit permit from the health department.

The funeral home is an excellent resource for questions about how to request a burial transit permit and requirements for transporting the body back home.

Step 5: Arrange for Transportation Home

Arranging transportation for your loved one is an important decision because transportation costs will be your responsibility. You have two choices: ground or air transportation.

If you choose ground transportation, you may use a private carrier or even the U.S. Postal Service (if shipping cremated remains). When shipping the body back home (not cremated), embalming may be required by state law. To confirm what is legally necessary, speak with a funeral director at the place of death.

Another option is airline transport. Depending on the airline you choose, there may be additional paperwork needed. Additionally, if the death occurred in a different country, you might need other types of documentation, such as the deceased’s passport. Speak with your specific airline to determine their requirements and regulations. It’s important to gather all necessary paperwork to ensure a smooth transition home for your loved one.

And that’s it! Hopefully, knowing these 5 steps will put you at ease when you travel away from home. However, to make things even easier on your loved ones, there are things you can do ahead of time to prepare for unexpected events.

Preparing in Advance

To make things easier on your family if death occurs away from home, there are some safeguards you can have in place before going out of town.

Preplan for your funeral wishes: By planning your funeral wishes ahead of time, you ensure that your loved ones know exactly what to do in the event of an unexpected death.
Purchase travel protection: Depending on the travel plan you choose, you may have certain expenses covered, such as transporting the body home. If you decide to preplan with a funeral home, talk to their funeral professional to ask about their travel plan options.
Get affairs in order: By getting your affairs in order, you make your wishes regarding your estate and assets known. Information like your Social Security number, mother’s maiden name, and other details are crucial for obtaining a death certificate, closing out accounts, and receiving life insurance policies.

Putting safeguards in place can help take a burden off your family and make things easier when you are gone. However, even with these safeguards in place, the death of a loved one is never easy. Hopefully, you will never be called upon to make funeral arrangements when death occurs away from home. But if the unexpected happens, we hope this information will be a beneficial guide for you through the process of bringing a loved one home.

If you’d like to learn more about preplanning for funeral wishes, please look into these additional resources:

What is Advance Funeral Planning?
How to Get Started With Funeral Preplanning
A Quick Guide to Planning a Funeral

Jun 03

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Funeral Flowers Around the World

By christy.kessler Educational, Grief/Loss, Memorial

For millennia, flowers have been a universal representation of love, life, and loss. In many cultures, funeral flowers carry deep-rooted and cherished significance. They create a soothing atmosphere, evoke positive emotions, create connections, and convey messages of love and support. Today, let’s discuss several prominent funeral flowers around the world and why they may be more culturally significant in one area of the world than another.

White lily on black background

White Lilies

In many cultures, the white lily is commonly used for funerals. These trumpet-shaped blooms represent purity, innocence, peace, and the resurrection of the soul. Because of their close association with the soul, white lilies are often seen at religious ceremonies and other commemorative events in Western, Latin American, and Asian cultures. A traditional choice for funerals since ancient times, the lily is fitting for a time of reflection and mourning.

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Roses

Roses are practically synonymous with profound love. In Latin American and Western cultures, any color rose can be offered as a remembrance after a loved one’s death, though red and white are perhaps the most common. However, in some Asian cultures, the color red represents celebration and happiness, and because of that, red roses are inappropriate for a funeral. They use white instead for its connection to purity and reverence.

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Marigold (Cempoalxochitl)

Perhaps most well-known for its use during Dia de Los Muertos in Mexico, the marigold is considered the “flower of the dead.” Its color and fragrance are thought to guide the souls of the deceased back to the world of the living, where family and friends leave offerings to pay their respects. The bright, cheery color celebrates life instead of focusing on the bitterness of death. Additionally, the marigold is essential to Hindu funerals because it symbolizes the cycle of life and death, guiding the soul to its next incarnation.

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Chrysanthemum

In many Asian cultures, the lovely chrysanthemum is closely associated with death and funerals. These delicate plants convey grief, lamentation, respect for the deceased, and condolence for the family. White and yellow are considered the most suitable colors. The chrysanthemum may also be used in Western culture funerals, though there’s less emphasis on specific colors. Instead, you can include chrysanthemums of any shade at a loved one’s final tribute.

Jasmine

While flowers are used more sparingly in Middle Eastern funerals, jasmine and white lilies are often considered acceptable choices. Jasmine is associated with death, remembrance, spiritual realms, and the afterlife. Some families may use the strong, sweet fragrance to scent their homes. Other families will leave the flowers at the grave to offer respect to the departed. Middle Eastern cultures often focus more on spiritual connection through prayers, but there is still room for personal expression through floral arrangements.

Lei

Hawaii is well-known for its use of the lei for many occasions. One of these occasions is the funeral, where the lei is used to express condolences and respect for the deceased and their family. In Hawaii, the lei represents love, respect, and the circle of life and may be worn by guests, draped over photos or the casket/urn, or set out to decorate the funeral service area. In some cases, the lei may be thrown out into the ocean, symbolizing the release of a loved one’s spirit. Various types of leis can be used, including maile, ti leaf, and orchid leis.

King Protea

The national flower of South Africa, the King Protea symbolizes strength, resilience, and the enduring nature of life. The flower’s ability to survive harsh conditions created a cultural connection to overcoming adversity and embracing the future. Because of its deep roots in South African culture, the artichoke-like flower is often used at funerals. It gives mourners a way to express their love and care for a lost loved one in a way that is uniquely suited to South African traditions.

Flowers are used all over the world to convey sympathy, respect, and remembrance. If you are selecting flowers for a culture that is not your own, consider asking which flowers would be appropriate. For example, flowers are not part of the Jewish funeral tradition. Because of that, they wouldn’t be the best choice for paying respects and supporting the grieving family. When in doubt, ask someone who knows, like a family member, friend, or even the funeral director.

If you’d like to learn more about funeral flowers, check out 7 Popular Sympathy Flowers and Their Meanings and Gifting Sympathy Flowers: A Practice that Goes Back Millennia.

May 11

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6 Ways Hospice Care Can Improve Quality of Life

By christy.kessler Educational, Hospice

If you have been diagnosed with a terminal illness, choosing hospice care may feel like giving up. But in so many ways, it’s not about giving up; it’s about taking back control and improving quality of life so that the final days are the best they can possibly be – for you and your loved ones.

Research shows that hospice care not only improves quality of life, but it also extends the length of life. In two separate studies, results found that patients who received hospice care lived 1-3 months longer, felt happier, and were more mobile. But how does hospice care do that? What services do hospice workers provide that improve quality of life? Let’s talk about it.

6 Ways Hospice Care Can Improve Quality of Life

Older woman in wheelchair sitting outside with hospice nurse, taking medication and enjoying outdoors

1. Symptom Management

The first focus of hospice care is pain and symptom management. Pain negatively affects quality of life, so if you can manage it, quality of life goes up quickly. Hospice teams are skilled in managing pain through medication, physical therapy, as well as other techniques. Regular visits from the hospice team will not only keep any discomfort down, but they also often prevent the need for emergency hospital visits. This means you can rest more fully and stay in the comfort of your own home.

2. Emotional & Spiritual Support

In addition to addressing physical needs, hospice care also provides resources for emotional and spiritual support. As human beings, we are so much more than a body – we are spiritual, emotional, and psychological. When you request hospice care, you gain access to chaplains and other advisors who are available to help you and your family cope with the challenges of a terminal illness and the grief that comes along with it. This form of counseling can reduce stress, anxiety, and emotional pain, leading to a better quality of life.

3. Education on What to Expect

For so many of us, the unknown is daunting and scary, which can cause some unpleasant emotions like fear or anxiety. But by learning what to expect, you can take some of the fear out of a difficult situation. If you’d like, the hospice care team is available to help you understand disease progression and what to expect in the coming months. This knowledge will help you process what’s happening to your body and prepare for what’s to come. Though it seems counterintuitive, having this information can reduce the stress you feel and improve overall quality of life.

4. Practical, At-Home Assistance

When you’re not feeling well, the practical, day-to-day tasks can sometimes become much harder to accomplish. The hospice care team can ensure that you and your home continue to be cared for throughout your illness. They will assist with your personal care (hygiene, baths), household tasks (preparing meals, cleaning), and if you’d like, they can also assist with financial planning or advance funeral planning. By allowing the hospice team to take care of the practical things, your ability to remain at home increases, and being in a comfortable, familiar place improves quality of life.

5. Support for Caregiving Relatives

In addition to a hospice care team, you may also have close family members acting as caregivers during your illness. These loving caregivers also administer medication, help with personal care, and take care of the home. But sometimes, caregiving can be overwhelming, and family caregivers may need a break. That’s completely normal and expected. When you sign up for hospice care, respite care becomes an option for caregivers. This short-term assistance gives caregivers a few days to recharge or take care of their own personal needs. When your caregivers feel refreshed, your quality of life improves, too.

6. More Family Time

The more hands you have helping, the more time you have for other things. If your loved ones are acting as your sole caregivers, they may feel torn between taking care of the daily necessities and simply sitting with you and absorbing every minute. With a hospice team on your side, your caregiving family members don’t have as many responsibilities. This means you can spend more time just being together, which is something all of you need during this time of illness and transition. No one ever wishes they’d spent more time working – they wish they’d spent more time with family and the people who matter most.

As you can see, hospice care looks at the whole person – physical, spiritual, emotional, mental. And by offering a variety of services, hospice care workers not only improve your quality of life, but they also assist you and those closest to you with deep compassion and kindness.

For more information about hospice care, check out these resources:

Understanding the 7 Basics Hospice Services
Who Qualifies for Hospice Care?
Deciding How to Pay for Hospice Care
Do You Know the Four Levels of Hospice Care?
4 Places Where You Can Receive Hospice Care
The Ins and Outs of Hospice Respite Care
6 Signs that It’s Time to Consider Hospice Care

Nov 05

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Pros and Cons of Using a Professional Estate Sale Company

By Courtney Cook Educational

After losing a loved one, you might feel like you have a million things to take care of, from planning a funeral to settling your loved one’s estate. One big task is taking care of your loved one’s belongings. While hosting an estate sale may help you clear away items you don’t want to keep, it can be challenging to do it yourself. But using a professional estate sale company can help! If you’re considering hosting an estate sale, here are a few pros and cons of working with an estate sale company.

NOTE: If there are any disputes regarding the estate, wait until those conflicts are resolved before hosting an estate sale. Also, honor any bequests in the legal will before putting items up for sale.

Pro: Estate sale companies take care of organizing and pricing items.

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One of the most daunting tasks that comes with hosting an estate sale is sorting through and pricing all the items in the house. For most people, that’s the most significant benefit of using a professional estate company; they do all the organizing and pricing for you. Estate sale companies are familiar with typical estate sale pricing and know which items may be worth a lot of money, which means they can set you up for success.

Con: You’ll still need to do some sorting on your own.

While an estate sale company can help with a lot, there are still a few things you’ll have to take care of on your own, like pulling out any items other family members want or sorting through sentimental items like photos and scrapbooks. Even if you and your family want to sell everything, you’ll still need to check for sensitive documents and important papers.

Pro: Some companies will remove leftover items after the sale.

collection of clothes, records, hats, globes, and other estate sale items in front of a yellow wall

Depending on your contract, the size of the company you work with, and whether they are also estate liquidators, the company might clean out leftover items after the sale. If your family plans to sell the house after the estate sale, this service can be a huge help since you won’t have to worry about moving furniture or deciding what to do with leftover pieces. Plus, some companies may offer cleaning services as part of their contract.

Con: Estate sale companies are mostly unregulated.

For the most part, estate sale companies are unregulated, so it may be challenging to find a reliable company. An inexperienced company may price items too low or too high, resulting in lower profits or fewer sales. A dishonest liquidation company could price valuable items especially high so they don’t sell and the liquidator can resell the items themselves, making a greater profit that you don’t benefit from. If you decide to use an estate sale company, do your research, look at reviews, and read over any contracts carefully before you sign.

Pro: Estate sale companies can bring in more business.

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Many estate sale companies advertise the sales they host in local newspapers or on websites and their social media pages. They often have large followings of enthusiastic buyers who are always looking for new sales. The estate sale company’s extra advertising and name recognition can bring more people to your sale than you might get if you do everything on your own. The company knows where their buyers are and can bring more traffic to your sale.

Con: Estate sale companies typically take a portion of the profit as their fee.

Many companies will take a percentage of the profit from the sale as part of their contract. This percentage typically ranges from 30%-50% of gross sales, which helps the company pay for labor and the time spent organizing and pricing items. Plus, there may be additional fees for removal of leftover items or cleaning. While this may sound like a lot, remember that an estate sale company’s experience can help boost your sales. You may not get 100% of the profit, but you may still make more money than you would on your own!

While there are pros and cons to both hosting an estate sale yourself and using a company, consider what will best fit your needs. No matter what you choose, take time to look at all your options and do your research before making a decision.

Oct 23

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A Quick Guide to Cremation Caskets

By christy.kessler Cemeteries, Cremation, Educational, Explore Options

If you are interested in cremation as the final disposition of choice, you may need to choose a cremation casket or cremation container as part of your funeral plan. In many states, cremation cannot take place unless the body is placed in some sort of container, and today, we’re going to talk about the options.

Flower spray resting on top of light wood casket with lit candle nearby

Ultimately, the decision of which type of casket to use is up to you and your family, and there’s no right or wrong answer. While it can be a difficult choice, discuss the options with both your funeral director and your family to decide what’s best for your particular needs.

3 Types of Cremation Caskets & Cremation Containers

The main thing that sets cremation caskets apart from burial caskets is that any cremation casket or container must be made of a fully combustible material. This means there can be no metal parts (or very minimal ones). Let’s discuss 3 main types of cremation caskets and containers that are most commonly available.

1. Traditional Cremation Casket

If you would like to have a traditional funeral service with body present before cremation takes place, you can. In this instance, you can choose a more traditional cremation casket made from materials like wood, bamboo, or wicker. The casket will encase a loved one’s body for the funeral service or visitation, and after all services are complete, everything will be escorted to the crematory. Since there’s no metal, the casket will serve dual purposes: presentation at the service and dignity at the crematory.

2. Green or Eco-Friendly Caskets

Because green or eco-friendly caskets are made of natural materials, you can use one as a cremation casket. These types of caskets are available in bamboo, willow, seagrass, wicker, cotton or wool, teak, and other types of wood. They tend to be less expensive, depending on the material and construction you choose. Also, they are fully combustible and contain no metal.

3. Cremation Container (or Alternative Container)

Another option is to choose a cremation container (as opposed to a cremation casket). A cremation container is a simple box made of either cardboard or fiberboard. There are no embellishments or personalized elements, and the focus is on function, not presentation. If it’s important to you, some cremation containers are made to look like traditional caskets, but you will need to speak with your funeral director to determine if that option is available in your area.

4 Tips When Buying a Cremation Casket

When deciding which cremation casket or container to use, keep these 4 tips in mind:

1. What is My Budget?

Always keep your budget in mind. While cremation caskets are typically less expensive than burial caskets, they do vary in price. If you are working with a very specific budget, speak with your funeral director about the options that best fit with your financial needs.

2. Does Appearance Matter?

For some, the appearance of the caskets matters, so do a little research. If you’d like to add personalized elements, then a cremation container isn’t for you. However, with some cremation caskets, you can add special touches to create something unique.

3. Will There Be a Funeral Service?

If you plan to have a traditional service with the body present before cremation takes place, keep that in mind when selecting a cremation casket.

4. Did My Loved One Have Any Personal Preferences?

If you are planning a final tribute for a loved one, you may or may not know what their funeral preferences were. However, if your loved one preplanned, consider honoring those wishes and going with their preferred selection. If not, make the best choice possible with the information you have.

Common Questions to Consider

What are my casket options if I choose to have a traditional funeral service with cremation?

First, you can either select a cremation casket made of a natural material, such as wood or bamboo, that is presentable for the service and safe for the crematory. Or second, you can speak with your funeral director to see if the funeral home offers rental caskets.

While a rental casket looks like a traditional casket, there’s a foot panel that opens up to allow a cardboard insert to be placed into or removed from the casket exterior. The removable insert comes with its own fabric liner, which is for one-time use, and it is hidden from view once inside the casket exterior.

In this way, you can rent a casket for the ceremony and have a less expensive container for the crematory. To learn more, read “Rental Caskets: What You Need to Know.”

What is the cost of a cremation casket?

The cost will vary depending on the type of casket you select. Some materials cost more than others, but in general, cremation caskets and containers will be less expensive than burial caskets.

Do cremation caskets come with personalized design elements?

There may be a few different design options available, but in general, the appearance is more minimalist. If you’d like, you can always work with the funeral home to commission a custom cremation casket, if that’s important for your family.

What does the interior of a cremation casket look like?

Generally, the interior will be simple with a lining and basic padding. You won’t see the more ornate details that are available with burial caskets.

Does a cremation casket seal?

There are no tight sealing mechanisms on cremation caskets. The cover and hinges are sufficient for a funeral service, but they are not heavy-duty like you’d see on a burial casket. The purpose of sealing is to keep out the elements, and since a cremation casket will not be buried, there’s no need to seal it in the same way.

Do cremation caskets have handles?

Yes, they do. In some cases, the handles are removable, but it all depends on what type of cremation casket you select.

By law, do I need to purchase a cremation casket?

In all 50 states, the law does not require that a person be cremated in a casket. However, many states or crematories require that there must be some sort of container. This is where the alternative container comes into play. You can select to use the cardboard or fiberboard alternative container in place of a cremation casket, especially if you are on a tight budget. The alternative container won’t come with padding or a lined interior; it is simply a box.

If I choose direct cremation, do I need a cremation casket?

That’s up to you and your family. You do not have to select a cremation casket, but you will likely need a cremation container at the very least.

Can I have a service with a cremation container?

It’s not generally recommended to use a cremation container for a funeral service. Cardboard and fiberboard cremation containers are not intended for viewing purposes and only serve as a means of providing a loved one’s remains with a respectful journey to the crematory. If you don’t want to purchase a cremation casket for a service, you can instead opt for a rental casket.

Hopefully you now feel equipped to better understand the options that are available to you regarding cremation caskets and containers. If you still have questions or would like to discuss the options available locally, reach out to a trusted funeral home and set up a time to visit with a funeral professional. They can help you understand all of your options so you can decide what’s best for your family and your needs.

Oct 09

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10 Traditional Jewish Funeral Customs

By christy.kessler Educational, History of Funerals

Every culture and religion have their own traditions and rituals surrounding the funeral, and the Jewish faith is no different. Today, let’s discuss 10 traditional Jewish funeral customs and their purpose and significance to the millions of people who follow Judaism. However, please note that there are several different movements within Judaism, which means their customs will vary a bit. But regardless of the branch of Judaism, Jewish funeral customs follow a strong set of beliefs tied closely to the Torah.

1. Taharah (Preparation of the Body)

In accordance with Jewish custom, the deceased’s body is washed, purified, and dressed after death (but not embalmed). This ritual washing is called taharah. Traditionally, women will complete taharah for women and men for men.

After the washing is complete, the body is often dressed in a plain ceremonial shroud (called a tachrichim). In some cases, the deceased may be buried in a kittel, which is a white garment worn on High Holidays or at weddings. For men, a prayer shawl and religious skullcap (or yarmulke) are also included.

2. Shemira (Watching Over the Deceased)

As a sign of respect and kindness, the deceased is never left alone from the time of death until services are complete. This practice of watching over or guarding the deceased is called shemira, and the person guarding the deceased is called a shomer.

This responsibility can be shared and taken in shifts. Often, it’s family members, friends, or members of the synagogue who step in to serve as shomrim. During shemira, comforting psalms can be read aloud with the intention of bringing comfort to both the spirit of the departed and that of the shomer.

3. K’vurah B’karka (Ground Burial)

Traditionally, burial takes place within 24 hours of death, but in some Jewish movements, more time is allowed. However, burial does still take place as soon as possible. In many cases, the funeral is held at the graveside, though it could also occur at the funeral home or synagogue.

The service may be brief and simple, designed to honor the loved one and to allow an opportunity to offer condolences to the family. There may also be readings, eulogies, and the recitation of prayer.

If you are a non-Jew and would like to know what to expect at a Jewish burial, make sure to read “Jewish Funeral Etiquette: What to Expect as a Non-Jew.”

4. Kriah (Tearing or Rending of the Garment)

Following the death of a loved one, immediate family members will often wear a black ribbon. This ribbon is torn as an outward sign of personal pain and grief. Orthodox Jews may choose to tear their clothing (often the collar), while Reform Jews tear the black ribbon instead. The tearing most often occurs before the funeral ceremony in a private room with only immediate family members present.

The torn ribbon or garment is then worn during shiva, but not on Shabbat or Festival Days. Traditional Jews may continue to wear the torn garment through the 30 days of shloshim. (We will discuss shiva and shloshim in more detail shortly.)

5. Levayah (Accompany the Deceased)

Similar to a non-Jewish funeral procession, Jewish mourners accompany the deceased to the final resting place. This action affirms that those who love the deceased are still and forever joined together. It is also thought that the soul of the departed is comforted by the presence of their loved ones during the transition from one life to another.

Because burial is perhaps the most important part of the Jewish funeral, mourners should make every effort to participate in levayah and the graveside service.

6. Seudat Havra’ah (Meal of Condolence)

After burial, the meal of condolence typically takes place at the synagogue or the home of the bereaved. Friends, neighbors, or extended family members provide a meal that often includes lentils, hard-boiled eggs, and bread. In Judaism, these foods are associated with mourning or with life itself. Other simple and easily digestible foods may also be included in the consolation meal.

7. Shiva (Week of Mourning)

Shiva is the first seven days after the funeral – a mourning period where the deceased’s family stays at home and receives guests. Traditionally, shiva begins immediately after the burial and is a time to acknowledge any feelings of grief and sadness. Today, many families observe only one or two days of traditional shiva rather than the full seven.

During shiva, the bereaved family will recite prayers and reflect on their loss. Guests offering condolences often bring kosher meals as a gift to feed the family and their visitors.

Throughout shiva, personal grooming and physical intimacy are not allowed. Mirrors are also covered to encourage mourners to focus on the deceased and not on personal appearance. These actions symbolize the disruption that death brings and demonstrate grief through self-sacrifice.

8. Shloshim (First 30 Days of Mourning)

Directly following shiva, there is a 30-day period of mourning called shloshim. During this time, the bereaved family will go back to their normal routines, but they will continue to recite prayers and daily hymns. Some Jews may choose to wear the torn black garment or ribbon from the kriah ritual. Additionally, it’s common to refrain from haircuts, shaving, and attending social or even religious events.

Some families may choose to end shloshim with a special service where mourners speak about the deceased. Also, if there is to be a public memorial service, it often occurs after the conclusion of shloshim.

9. Yahzreit (Anniversary of the Death)

Every year, on the anniversary of the deceased’s death, the family lights a candle and leaves it to burn for 24 hours. This is an act of remembrance and helps the family on the grief journey.

It’s common practice to recite Jewish prayers or to attend synagogue services. Other families may choose to share a song, place a picture of the lost loved one nearby, recite the Mourner’s Kaddish, or visit the grave of the deceased.

10. Hakamat Ha-Matzeivah (Unveiling Ceremony)

Approximately one year after the funeral, the family gathers at the gravesite for the unveiling of the gravestone. There’s often a brief service, which may include readings and recitations, a few words about the deceased, and the unveiling itself. The presence of a rabbi is not required, but some families may choose to include one in the planning and facilitation of the ceremony.

Hopefully you now have a deeper and better understanding of the beauties of Jewish funeral traditions. Again, these customs will vary a bit depending on whether a person practices Orthodox Judaism, Reform Judaism, or one of the other movements. But overall, the heart behind the Jewish funeral tradition is to respect the deceased in every way possible and support the grieving family as they mourn the loss of someone dearly loved.

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Reason #1: “An estate plan is only for senior adults”

Reason #2: “An estate plan is only for the wealthy”

Reason #3: “Estate planning will be too expensive”

Reason #4: “I have plenty of time”

Reason #5: “I don’t need an estate plan”

Reason #6: “I’ve never thought about it”

So, What’s Next?

Further reading on estate planning

11 Reasons Why You Should Start Estate Planning Now

1. Protect Your Minor Children

2. Outline Future Care for Pets

3. Minimize or Prevent Family Disagreements

4. Specify How Your Assets Should Be Distributed

5. Avoid Probate Court and Preserve Privacy

6. Choose a Trusted Estate Executor

7. Manage or Minimize Estate Tax Issues

8. Document your Medical Care Wishes

9. Avoid a Guardianship Appointment

10. Arrange for Charitable Gifts

11. Give Everyone Peace of Mind

Why Is It Important to Plan Now?

Additional Estate Planning Resources

20 Ideas for Personalizing a Veteran’s Final Tribute

1. Request military honors

2. Invite guests to attend in uniform

3. Choose a venue with significance

4. Incorporate personal keepsakes & memorabilia

5. Prepare a personalized event program

6. Ask fellow veterans to speak during the eulogy

7. Create a video montage of the veteran’s life

8. Decorate with patriotic colors or floral arrangements

9. Select customized funeral merchandise

10. Design a personalized monument

11. Give guests a remembrance token or keepsake

12. Add a timeline of the veteran’s life

13. Encourage donations to support veteran organizations

14. Play ceremonial and patriotic music

15. Sing patriotic songs together

16. Arrange for a military band to perform

17. Invite comrades-in-arms to participate

18. Read a history of the service branch

19. Include patriotic readings

20. Customize the funeral procession

Don’t Forget to Take Advantage of VA Veteran Burial Benefits

What is Resilience?

How Does Gratitude Build Resilience?

1. Encourages Positive Reframing

2. Reduces Stress and Anxiety

3. Improves Mental Health

4. Promotes Physical Health

5. Enhances Social Connections

How Do I Create a Gratitude Habit?

Don’t Forget to Pay Attention to Your Own Needs

Step 1: Notify the Necessary People

Step 2: Get a Death Certificate

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Step 3: Choose a Disposition

Step 4: Apply for a Burial Transit Permit

Step 5: Arrange for Transportation Home

Preparing in Advance

White Lilies

Roses

Marigold (Cempoalxochitl)

Chrysanthemum

Jasmine

Lei

King Protea

6 Ways Hospice Care Can Improve Quality of Life

1. Symptom Management

2. Emotional & Spiritual Support

3. Education on What to Expect

4. Practical, At-Home Assistance

5. Support for Caregiving Relatives

6. More Family Time

Pro: Estate sale companies take care of organizing and pricing items.

Con: You’ll still need to do some sorting on your own.

Pro: Some companies will remove leftover items after the sale.

Con: Estate sale companies are mostly unregulated.