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12 Ways to Honor the Musician in Your Life

By Meaningful Funerals, Personalization

Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult things we face in life, but designing a meaningful final goodbye can create a sweet moment of remembrance that will help soothe the pain.

Today, we’re going to talk about ways you can personalize the service to honor a loved one who deeply valued music, whether they sang, wrote songs, played an instrument, or participated in band, orchestra, musical theatre, and more. Let’s get started.

Personalized Ways to Honor the Musician in Your Life

1. Pick a music-related venue

Did you know that you have freedom when choosing the location of a loved one’s final tribute? For music lovers, your local theater, performance hall, or another type of music venue would be a great location for a service. Gathering somewhere that was either meaningful to your loved one or that highlights an area of interest is a wonderful way for people to feel closer to them.

2. Choose a music-inspired guestbook

It’s common practice to ask people to sign a guestbook when they attend the visitation or funeral service. Consider choosing one with a musical theme, such as music notes, vinyl records, or instruments. If you can personalize it, consider including a picture of your loved one playing their favorite instrument. Having a music-themed guestbook gives you a unique way to honor your loved one’s passion for music.

Flowers made out of sheet music placed in a vase.

3. Decorate with a music theme

While flowers are commonly used for decoration at a funeral service, there are so many ways that you can get creative! To add a musical theme to the service, you could use flowers made from sheet music, play vinyl on a record player, or display posters of their favorite bands. Additionally, if they were involved in musical theatre or any organized musical group, you could add playbills, programs, ticket stubs, costumes, and other memorabilia associated with that aspect of their life. These special touches add a unique feel to the service and pay tribute to their love of music.

4. Create a collage of photos from performances

If your musician did shows, put on concerts, or played on stage, gather photos of the performances to use during the service. Put the images in a photo album, scatter them on a table, or hang them on the wall for mourners to admire as they reflect on their loved one’s life. By adding these special touches, you can bring a loved one’s past performances to life for mourners who have come to honor their legacy.

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5. Display their instrument

Perhaps your loved one played an instrument, or two, or three. To honor the time and commitment your loved one put into honing their craft, consider displaying their instrument(s) during the service. The instrument will become a visual reminder of their love of music. Plus, when people see the instrument, they can reflect on the special moments when they watched your lost loved one play it.

6. Perform songs they wrote

If your musician enjoyed writing song lyrics, you may want to play their personal songs at the service. Print out the lyrics and provide them to guests as they enter the service. Have a musician, band, or family members perform the song and encourage attendees to sing along. Hearing the lyrics your loved one wrote can bring peace and comfort during difficult moments.

Woman playing a cello, seated by man playing a violin.

7. Show videos of them singing or playing instruments

Alternatively, you could include a memorial video that highlights your loved one’s musical talent. If you have videos of your musician singing or playing instruments, they could be shown on-screen while people are entering or leaving the service. Watching a video of your loved one can help you revisit joyful memories and see the happiness they felt while performing.

8. Play music by their favorite artists

Every music lover will have their favorite musical artists, and you can use those preferences to personalize the service. Did your loved one have a favorite country artist, enjoy jazz, or love a band from their youth? Use their favorite tunes to compile a list of songs to play during the service.

If you want to involve the guests, consider creating a collaborative playlist of songs. Using whatever music streaming service you prefer, share a link with mourners to allow them to add songs that you can play at the service. To ensure the songs are appropriate for the service, review the playlist ahead of time. Additionally, you will need to make sure that the funeral home you partner with for the service has an appropriate license to play copyrighted music. By inviting family and friends to create a playlist together, you give them the chance to participate and reflect on meaningful moments spent with a lost loved one.

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9. Reserve seats for musical peers and students

Your musician may have spent part of their life mentoring others or leading musical groups, either as part of their career or during their personal time. If your loved one was a music teacher, voice coach, or band member, reserve a seating section for their students or fellow band members at the service. Providing special seating for guests who were important to your musician is a great way to honor their legacy.

10. Donate to a local musical organization

If your musician was active in a musical band, club, or organization, consider offering the option for people to donate to that cause as an alternative to sending flowers. Memorial contributions will serve as a meaningful way to support a cause that was close to your loved one’s heart.

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11. Hand out mementos at the service

Another thoughtful way to honor the musician in your life is to pass out mementos at the service. Not only will the keepsake remind people of your loved one on the day of the service, but it will act as a reminder for years to come.

Here are a few ideas for mementos:

  • Sheet music of an original song or one of your loved one’s favorite tunes

  • Guitar picks in a basket

  • Picture of your loved one performing

  • Musical note bookmarks

By providing attendees with a meaningful keepsake, you give them a tangible object that will help them process the loss.

12. Design a custom monument

In most cases, monuments are entirely customizable, allowing you to create a unique design to honor your musician. For example, you could add a photo etching, choose the shape of a music note, or have your loved one’s favorite lyrics carved on the stone. Your funeral director or a monument specialist can help you design the perfect monument to honor your loved one. They will discuss your options and answer any questions that you may have about creating a custom monument.

These are just a few ideas to get you started! Musicians bring joy and happiness to people’s lives, and there are so many ways to highlight their musical interest and talent. By planning a personalized service that incorporates music themes, you can pay tribute to their gift, their values, and their unique personality.

Additional Resources

If you’d like more ideas on personalizing a funeral for a loved one, check out these resources:

10 Ideas for Making a Funeral More Personal
Using Color to Personalize a Service
How to Personalize Music at a Funeral
How to Personalize Readings at a Funeral
How to Personalize the Eulogy at a Funeral
How to Personalize Healing Actions at a Funeral
Why Does Funeral Personalization Matter?

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What to Do if a Death Occurs Out of Town

By Educational

In life, we prepare for so many things. We save for vacation, purchase insurance to protect our homes and cars, and go to annual preventative medical exams. But despite all our best efforts, the unexpected can happen, including death away from home. The question is, is your family prepared? Do you and your family know what to do if death occurs away from home? Let’s explore practical steps to guide you through the process of what to do when death occurs out of town.

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Step 1: Notify the Necessary People

When someone passes away, the first thing you will need to do is notify the necessary people. With a sudden death, you may need to call the local authorities to let them know a death has occurred. First responders will come to confirm the death, secure the area, and ensure that proper protocols are followed.

Next, depending on the location of the death, you may need to contact two funeral homes: one in the area where the death took place and one back home. If you know that your loved one preplanned their funeral wishes with a specific funeral home, notify them directly. Some funeral homes are willing to travel within a certain radius of their facility. These may be able to send a staff member to collect your loved one and transport them back to the funeral home.

The last calls you need to make are to any next of kin or friends. Don’t feel like you need to call everyone by yourself. Oftentimes, you can ask a few trusted people to help you spread the news, which will remove an emotional task from your shoulders and allow you to focus on other responsibilities.

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Step 2: Get a Death Certificate

After you have notified all the necessary people, you will need to address legal matters, such as obtaining a death certificate. Any time someone passes away, a death certificate must be issued by the responsible government office within a certain number of days.

Why would you need a death certificate? To complete funeral plans and close out an estate, you need legal proof that a loved one has died. This is where a death certificate becomes necessary. The death certificate allows you to close accounts, claim benefits, request burial or cremation, and address other legal matters. Also, a death certificate is required to arrange for transportation of the body back home.

However, there are different protocols for applying for a death certificate, depending on the state or country in which the death occurred.

State

Most of the time, the funeral home will assist you in the process of requesting and receiving a death certificate. Some states require embalming for transportation, may charge fees, or could have other regulations in place. Your funeral home will be the best resource for state practices.

Abroad

If a death occurs while you are abroad, the process for obtaining a death certificate could be quite different from the procedures in the U.S., depending on the country. You should notify the U.S. Embassy or consulate in that country, and they can assist you in obtaining the death certificate.

For a full list of embassies around the world and their contact numbers, please visit www.usembassy.gov. Also, for helpful tips from the U.S. State Department on what to do when death occurs abroad, click here.

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Step 3: Choose a Disposition

While it may sound odd, choosing a disposition will guide you in making funeral decisions when death occurs away from home. For example, if you choose burial, there will be different transportation requirements than if you select cremation.

Whether you choose burial or cremation, speak with your family members back home and take their thoughts into account. Some people need to physically see that special person one more time, which means burial would be preferred to cremation. On the other hand, cremation may be the disposition type all decision-making survivors agree on. Or you could do a hybrid where the body is transported back home before cremation takes place.

Regardless of which disposition is chosen, any decision will affect how you go about arranging a loved one’s transportation back home. And by consulting family members, you take their emotional needs into account throughout the planning process. Making funeral decisions while away from home is already difficult enough without adding hurt feelings to the mix.

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Step 4: Apply for a Burial Transit Permit

After applying for a death certificate and choosing a disposition, the next step is to request a burial transit permit. A burial transit permit, also known as a removal permit or disposition permit, is a legal document required for handling human remains. This document ensures that the remains are handled properly and follow the guidelines set by the state or country.

Like with a death certificate, the protocols may differ depending on where the death occurs. For example, if the death occurred across state lines, the body may need to be embalmed before crossing state lines. No matter what transportation method you choose, you’ll need to obtain a burial transit permit from the health department.

The funeral home is an excellent resource for questions about how to request a burial transit permit and requirements for transporting the body back home.

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Step 5: Arrange for Transportation Home

Arranging transportation for your loved one is an important decision because transportation costs will be your responsibility. You have two choices: ground or air transportation.

If you choose ground transportation, you may use a private carrier or even the U.S. Postal Service (if shipping cremated remains). When shipping the body back home (not cremated), embalming may be required by state law. To confirm what is legally necessary, speak with a funeral director at the place of death.

Another option is airline transport. Depending on the airline you choose, there may be additional paperwork needed. Additionally, if the death occurred in a different country, you might need other types of documentation, such as the deceased’s passport. Speak with your specific airline to determine their requirements and regulations. It’s important to gather all necessary paperwork to ensure a smooth transition home for your loved one.

And that’s it! Hopefully, knowing these 5 steps will put you at ease when you travel away from home. However, to make things even easier on your loved ones, there are things you can do ahead of time to prepare for unexpected events.

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Preparing in Advance

To make things easier on your family if death occurs away from home, there are some safeguards you can have in place before going out of town.

  • Preplan for your funeral wishes: By planning your funeral wishes ahead of time, you ensure that your loved ones know exactly what to do in the event of an unexpected death.

  • Purchase travel protection: Depending on the travel plan you choose, you may have certain expenses covered, such as transporting the body home. If you decide to preplan with a funeral home, talk to their funeral professional to ask about their travel plan options.

  • Get affairs in order: By getting your affairs in order, you make your wishes regarding your estate and assets known. Information like your Social Security number, mother’s maiden name, and other details are crucial for obtaining a death certificate, closing out accounts, and receiving life insurance policies.

Putting safeguards in place can help take a burden off your family and make things easier when you are gone. However, even with these safeguards in place, the death of a loved one is never easy. Hopefully, you will never be called upon to make funeral arrangements when death occurs away from home. But if the unexpected happens, we hope this information will be a beneficial guide for you through the process of bringing a loved one home.

If you’d like to learn more about preplanning for funeral wishes, please look into these additional resources:

What is Advance Funeral Planning?
How to Get Started With Funeral Preplanning
A Quick Guide to Planning a Funeral

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